Ex friends ex likes me

[Whoknows89]

Hi all

About 4/5 years ago I started a job and I met a girl woman there and we became good friends . We were close but then drifted apart . She is quite argumentative and I am quite soft. It caused some clashes . In the end she wasn’t very nice to me .She was seeing a guy casually at our work . He did actually like me secretly ( apparently ) but I was with someone . Me and him have been platonic friends the whole time as we were all at the same work place .

Now he is messaging me and we are friends and getting closer , I am no longer friends with that same girl , but I feel horribly guilty.

Is it moral to see how it goes with this guy. I am not keen on the connection and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. On the other hand she wasn’t very nice to me at the end of our friendship and they weren’t serious .

So she’s not still a friend? If she’s not then I don’t see the issue, however do you all still work together? I don’t think Id risk the hassle if you do but if not then go for it

Hello , we don’t work together anymorez

*anymore

It would be daft to let the memory of a casual ex-friend get in the way of anything. If she was a current friend it would be different - you'd probably feel better with her blessing then, but you don't owe her anything now.
Try living in a small town for a while - if you never date anyone who's an ex if someone you used to know, you'd have a dating pool of about 2 people

Don't sweat it, just live your life - this isn't a dress rehearsal.

Go for it

Thanks all :)

She was nasty to you at the end, so there is zero loyalty owed to her. Go for it, dry hump him in front of her if she sees you together.

@Whoknows89

Hi all

About 4/5 years ago I started a job and I met a girl woman there and we became good friends . We were close but then drifted apart . She is quite argumentative and I am quite soft. It caused some clashes . In the end she wasn’t very nice to me .She was seeing a guy casually at our work . He did actually like me secretly ( apparently ) but I was with someone . Me and him have been platonic friends the whole time as we were all at the same work place .

Now he is messaging me and we are friends and getting closer , I am no longer friends with that same girl , but I feel horribly guilty.

Is it moral to see how it goes with this guy. I am not keen on the connection and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. On the other hand she wasn’t very nice to me at the end of our friendship and they weren’t serious .

Is the girl still seeing this guy ? If so, no matter how not nice she was to you it's not a nice thing to see her boyfriend is it ?

There's is no problem here. Don't make one that doesn't exist.

Are they still together?

Your ex friend doesn't own him! You don't need her permission. Give it a go.

@Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow

Are they still together?

The thread is "Ex friend's EX", so they're not still together.

Not an issue. Everyone has dated someone else at some point. Some of those times, you might have known that person too.

You're not friends with her anymore and she was only seeing him casually. Can't see the problem myself.