Man promised me the world now can't commit

[lostandbroken21]

I'm struggling I feel head of heals with a man that I work with. He promised me the world he planned for us to be together.

I'm struggling but I can't start to see it wouldn't of been a good thing hence why I ended it.

He caused me so much pain called me crazy and over sensitive.

He manipulates me. Doesn't like me talking to other men.
He was dismissive of my feelings.
Wouldn't talk to me when I was upset but if I spoke to any one else about it he would go mad.

He is very toxic and I ended becoming so needy and pathetic.

Yet I love him miss him will this pain ever pass.

I also will have to see him at work.

The man is an abuser. He made you feel you could not manage without him and then he did this.

Block him. You will regret it if he comes back because he will do it all over again leaving you feeling worse than you do now.

He's horrible and has done you a favour by showing you what he is really like. Take that and run with it

Hi OP I’m sorry to hear this. What sort of things did he promise and why can he now not commit/ be with you?

It sounds like you’re hurting right now but this will pass and you’ll meet someone else I’m sure. What has he been like at work with you? Do you work directly together? Could you ignore him/move areas if it is causing you pain?

It sounds like he isn’t a very nice man if he was dismissive of your feelings, better you know his true colours now rather than later

Can you do something nice for yourself or do something with a friend to get your mind off him and help you to move forward ?

Sorry you went through this op but you are so much better off without this abusive, poisonous creature.

You may need to find another job if you are unable to move on as you see him at work and it will be difficult.

Been through the exact same. This guy ghosted me though with no explanation and wouldn't speak to me for closure. I get the mental torture. I had to see him at work every day, it hurt badly. I built up my self esteem, worked on me and realised what a sh*t he was. And that I didn't need him.

It will just take time. And you’ll be ok. Hold on until things shift.

Is he married?

Did he lie about being married? Does his wife not understand him? Are they separated and just living in the same house because it is best for the children?

It sounds like you made the right decision. Your feelings aren't just going to switch off immediately though, you need time to grieve that particular vision of your future.

New opportunities, whether for different jobs or new healthier relationships will turn up when you are ready to look for them.

@AnneLovesGilbert

Is he married?

Pound to a penny.