Hello everyone! I’m new here so forgive me if I’m not posting in the right area and for the absolute essay I’m about to write, but I need some advice.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a two and a half year old daughter who is the best thing to ever happen to me.
However, myself and my boyfriend have not been getting on for a while now and I think our time has come to an end and I am wanting to leave. I won’t bore you with the details but my mum always tells me that he emotionally abuses me which I have always disagreed with, but it feels more and more like this could possibly be the truth the longer we are together. I have tried for the last year to make the relationship work, mainly for our DD, but it’s all me and I get nothing back and I’m just tired of feeling sad.
This is where I need some advice...we own a house together which we mortgaged about 2 years ago. I had tried to apply for council housing about a year ago for myself and my daughter because I wanted to leave the relationship then and my boyfriend refused to leave our house (which he is well within his right to do), but was told that I wasn’t entitled because I owned assets (my house). We can’t sell our house because my boyfriend doesn’t want to (which he is also well within his right to do) and he can’t buy me out until I have physically left. I work full time as a drug dog handler so I also have a rather large kennel that needs to go with me wherever I live, into the back garden, to house my two working dogs (difficult to find private renting that will accommodate this, but not impossible as there are a few people I work with who rent). I earn too much to be entitled to any financial help, but I pay £1000 a month in nursery fees for my daughter who goes to full time nursery as I don’t have anyone to look after her while I’m at work (she will get 30 hours free when she turns 3 obviously, which will be a massive help) so don’t have enough excess cash to buy somewhere else and struggle finding somewhere to privately rent that isn’t absolutely extortionate. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions as to if there’s any financial aid for people who earn too much to be entitled to anything, but not enough to afford to live independently? Are there any kind of private social housing companies that anyone knows of that provide slightly cheaper housing options? The only information I can find are women leaving their partner’s, but they aren’t employed and don’t own property so their entitlement is different.
I can’t stay with my parents as they only have a two bedroom house and I still have two sisters who live with them! Has anyone had a similar experience and managed to get a council house? If I left with my daughter we would ‘technically’ be homeless!
What a nightmare...any help would be greatly appreciated.