Trust issues.

[mor93]

Been in a relationship for just coming up to 2 years I have major trust issues and I don’t know if it’s because of the past relationship I had was so toxic and got cheated on and was DV have I brought all the insecurities along to this relationship there has been a few red flags but in some relationships could be normal I’m just confused and it’s tearing my relationship apart is there any advice someone who has gone through this and just some advice would be great.

Do you have specific concerns regarding things that have happened?

When we first starting dating he was with someone else which of corse I didn’t find out until half way in and he left her for me which I wasn’t aware of and other little things, I just don’t know if it’s because of the previous relationship and I’m bringing the insecurities in to this relationship.

Bearing in mind he cheated on someone to be with you then yeah I would have major trust issue

If you truly have such bad trust issues that they are affecting your current relationship then you need to find a form of therapy for yourself. It isn't fair to enter a new relationship and inflict the unresolved past on your new partner. So many women on here have partners who have trust issues and the damage it causes them is immense. So get yourself sorted.

It would also help if you do the Freedom Programme - you can do it online. I really understand that at the heart of your question is the fact that you simply cannot tell what is normal and what isn't. We also cannot tell from what little you have written. The FP will be able to give you some help with this because otherwise you are in danger of being manipulated into thinking that all these issues are yours, when in fact they may be or they may not be.