Dating advice- why did he txt me

[JENJEN2021]

I finished with a guy 3 weeks ago because he doesnt want anymore children and I want one. We dated for 3 months but I made it clear it wasnt going to go anywhere and did not want to remain friends. He messaged me yesterday after 3 weeks to see how I am. I cant understand the motivation behind this?

Booty call. Ignore and don't be dragged back

This is what a friend of mine said, but I did reply politely and it just went into general chit chat and he didnt say anything about hooking up ... so weird

Sometimes, believe it or not, some men are nice people and he may just have wanted to check you are okay.

Does it matter what it means? It doesn’t mean “I’ve changed my mind, I want another kid!”

He was probably thinking about you and wondering if there’s a chance you might be up for another hook up.

I was wondering this as ive read so much about how men just play the game but surely that cant always be true

I see… let me get my crystal ball.

Don’t over rationalise this. It could be as simple as he text you by mistake and he followed on the conversation after you replied.

What is worth rationalising about is why you texted back a man who you said you didn’t want to stay in contact with.

@GrandmasCat

I see… let me get my crystal ball.

Don’t over rationalise this. It could be as simple as he text you by mistake and he followed on the conversation after you replied.

What is worth rationalising about is why you texted back a man who you said you didn’t want to stay in contact with.

Good point ... probably because we got on really well and I missed chatting to him, and I was curious to find out his motivation to message. However in hindsight its just made me more confused . I shouldn't have replied I suppose

It might not be an immediate hook up. He might want to start up something more casual.

Or he may miss you. I broke up with someone a few years ago, because he wanted kids. I don't want anymore. I had mine in my 20s and I didn't want more in my mid 30s as my career was taking off and life was getting easier.

I still, occasionally, think about him now. I even still miss him sometimes. But if one of us had compromised, that one would be miserable. I can still care about him but recognise the relationship wasn't going to work out.

It could be that he misses you. If you initiated the breakup maybe he is pining a bit? If it feels upsetting or confusing for you, either tell him to please stop or just don’t reply.

@shivermetimbers77

It could be that he misses you. If you initiated the breakup maybe he is pining a bit? If it feels upsetting or confusing for you, either tell him to please stop or just don’t reply.

I will do this if he messages again, it was really hard for me to end it because we got on so well and had a great spark. Its almost annoyed me that I am now confused and annoyed at myself for replying.

@Damnloginpopup

Sometimes, believe it or not, some men are nice people and he may just have wanted to check you are okay.

I hold out hope that there are some genuine people out there. Im hoping not everyone has some sinister agenda

@Trevsadick

It might not be an immediate hook up. He might want to start up something more casual.

Or he may miss you. I broke up with someone a few years ago, because he wanted kids. I don't want anymore. I had mine in my 20s and I didn't want more in my mid 30s as my career was taking off and life was getting easier.

I still, occasionally, think about him now. I even still miss him sometimes. But if one of us had compromised, that one would be miserable. I can still care about him but recognise the relationship wasn't going to work out.

Its a really hard discussion to have especially when otherwise everything is great. But major life decisions have got to align