has anyone else lost the ability to orgasm?

[wheresitgone]

I am a regular but have changed my name for obvious reasons.

Have always had very active sex life, been with dh for 8 years and we have a dd who is 6.

But have found recently that I seem to have lost the ability to orgasm.

Dh is now unable to bring me to that point any more, and I've tried on my own with no success. I've got to the point now where i don't really let dh try any more as it just leads to frustration from me because it doesn't happen, and frustration from dh because he can't do it for me.

So is that the end? Will I never orgasm again?

i think sometimes if you build it up to much it just wont happen, maybe go back to the relaxing bath and massage and leave it there, no pressure and slowly start having a more active sex life as you become more relaxed. i dont know what else to say, im sure it will come back - just go back to enoying sex and not thinking about the main goal being an orgasm.

Might it be worth going to the Drs to get hormone levels checked? I found I lost it completely during the 1st trimester when I was pregnant - could that be it?!

I guess you've asked yourself the usual questions about levels of stress, alcohol, drugs etc.

Didn't have the same problem (I've never had one with a partner!) but I'd like to recommend NHS sex therapy - long wait but very good.

A lot of medication can stop you achieving an orgasm- I know anti-d's do.

Second goldfish-I know when I was on them,I just couldn't.
Have you tried using a vibrator?

At 40, I have only just learned!!!!
However, last night it took me one whole hour. I have never had one with a partner, and if the intensity and constancy of a vibrator took an hour, I doubt I ever will.

lilymylovely - the more practice you do, the easier it will get!!

WIG - it could be that you have built things up a little so maybe it would be worth concentrating on the build up rather than the orgasm/sex bit.

Just snogging and touching/massaging/playing and discovering your erogenous zones again.

And remember, the biggest erogenous zone in a woman is her brain.

do you have a shower on a flexible hose...trying using that tmi i kno but it works for me

and dont get dehydrated

I probably sound like a right 'wanker'!! with nothing better to do, and I must admit to being ever so slightly obssessed at the moment, however I had no kids today, and went back to bed for some afternoon delight(alone) and called it a day when my body let me down - boo hoo.
Will try again tonight - my partner works overseas, and there's only so much Christmas wrapping a girl can do at night!

Oh, can't be bothered name changing!

This happened to me around a year ago, it lasted a month or two I think, no idea what caused it, tried everythng, on my own and with partner, eventually able to have crap ones again on my own then it built up again and am now back to normal, still no idea what caused it though!