Too sensitive?

[CloudySerar]

Text to partner:

Sleep well, miss you x

Reply:

Sweet dreams, sleep well x

He rarely says he misses me back. Upsets me. Am I being too sensitive?

Yes, you are being too sensitive. That’s a nice message.

He rarely ever says he misses me. It bothers me but I also have form for worrying/anxiety @PurpleDaisies

Is this the only thing that’s bothering you about your relationship? On the face of it, you really don’t have anything to be concerned about.

How long since you last saw each other? Has he had chance to miss you? It seems like a lovely message to me.

@PurpleDaisies he’s generally not very gushing. I am. I would like to know he misses me but can’t exactly text back and say ‘but do you miss me’

@RainbowStarsForever saw each other very early Tuesday. Seeing him Sunday.

Actions speak louder than words. My DP and I don't say 'I love you' to each other very often but we know each of us do because of our behaviour.

He sent a lovely message. You are allowing your anxiety to get the better of you.

Takes me at least 3 days to miss my partner. I love him dearly too.

I wouldn’t worry, it’s just not something he says.

@Newcastleteacake maybe I should stop saying it. He posted me a book this week so was obviously thinking of me

@User1357 why doesn’t he though? It’s never been that way with anyone else so it worries me a bit

Even if he doesn’t miss you right now he’s wishing you a good sleep and happy dreams. That’s nice.

Don’t go looking for trouble if there isn’t any.

Definitely don’t ask if he misses you!

Read up on the love languages. People show they care in different ways.

How long have you been dating? Is it quite new?

@AnneLovesGilbert since March x

He doesn't know that you're wanting a specific group of words back. He's just being loving. In fact, if he just parroted your words back to you, it would be weirder! Enjoy him.

Some people find it a bit cringe to repeat same sentiments back in the same chat - it's a bit childish. I'm one of those.
I miss you; I miss you too. I love you; I love you more, etc!

He's thoughtful - sends you a book, wishes you sweet dreams - it's more like he cares about your wellbeing rather than focus on the chat and his own needs/demands like 'I miss you' - to some people that sounds demanding / needy, esp to men. They feel it but don't want to sound needy.

Just saw that I 've cross-posted with mrwalk, pretty much.

Did you post about the same man earlier this week?

Ha I’ve just had the same conversation with my boyfriend last night. He also after 9 months has never said a nice compliment to me, no I miss you or I love you or anything.

Last night I went and sent an I miss you as I genuinely do and he sent back an I know I’m special aren’t I. To which I said what was that you meant to say something along the lines of I miss you too. So then he sent ok then I miss you too. What a joke!

I don’t think its wrong to receive nice words now and again. But asking for it didn’t exactly work. So I’ve come to the conclusion if it’s not given willingly then there’s no point as it sounds false. If I can’t put up with it then we don’t work as we have mis matching needs.

Ha I’ve just had the same conversation with my boyfriend last night. He also after 9 months has never said a nice compliment to me, no I miss you or I love you or anything.

That’s incredibly sad. Why are you with him?

@AnneLovesGilbert I am beginning to wonder why. I am an abuse survivor and I do require a bit more reassurance then most and I’m not really getting any so I’ve started to disconnect from the relationship a bit the past few weeks.

@Prettybubblesintheair err no?

@Letdown16 that sounds hard. Are you happy with him generally?