What does he want?

[Conallogue]

So my relationship broke up at the start of last weekend. He was the one who broke up with me. Six days with no contact then yesterday he sends my mum a text asking about her and my dad and how I am. Why would he do this? Surely if he wanted to know how I am he should text me himself? My Mum kept the response light saying we were all fine, everything was good. I don’t know what to think…

I'd tell your mum that unless she wants to be friends with your ex, she has zero obligation to answer any message he sends. And I'd ask her not to talk to him about me.

I don't know what he's trying to do but I'd guess nothing good.

He wants to hear that you're a boiling mess, that you have locked yourself in the bedroom with a crate of Gin.

You say "six days of no contact" - I assume you haven't contacted him either? Well, that's wrong, you're supposed to text him, call him, give him every reason to block him on social media. He wants his ego massaged by you doing the "pick me" dance. Your whole life should have ended six days ago when he finished the relationship.

In which case, tell your DM to breezily say that you're fine. It'll boil his piss.

TheSecondMrsAshwell

Yep!

He broke up with you and you have been strong and know your self worth. That’s normally a problem for most who end it.

Well done you!

He wanted to hear that you were doing shit.

Tell your mum to block him.
And buy her some chocolates for telling him you were all fine!

Yes, he has a big ego. I think he was expecting me to come begging to him to take me back. I have been a bit of a walkover in the past but this time I’m sticking to my guns. He did this to punish me, thinking I would come running back and that he would have full power over me again. It’s backfired on him this time

Hope you block him on everything op.

It's actually mega creepy that he texted your mum to find out your buisness when you think about it.

Read up on 'narcissist hoovering tactics' so you can get an idea of the other shit he might do.

Id actially be so tempted to get my mum to tell him you had just been out on a date with a handsome Italian guy and were gushing about him to her earlier, if he contacts her again xD

But probably not wise as itll only puss him off and you already know he is the sort who likes to punish people. Just make sure you all block him. Yiure lucky to be free of the jerk.

He NEEDS to be the good guy ..,

Why did he break up with you

He was expecting you to be begging him to come back by now and he thinks you haven’t because you’re in a coma as there’s no other reason you wouldn’t. Arrogant twat.

Well done OP and OPs mum. Stay NC. So much easier to move on. I’d ask your mum to block him too

You're meant to chase him back so he gets to feel he has control over you. Like a good pet, you're meant to play fetch with him.

Block him and do not give this idiot a further thought.