I am a relatively new Mum (baby is 10 months) and I am also 4 months pregnant. My husband works full time in a demanding job. I work PT in a relaxed job (around 12 hours over 3 evenings, self employed from home).
When it comes to the everyday care of our baby I would say there is a 70/30 split in what we do-me being the 70! My husband thinks this is fair, I am not working most of the time and he is.
I get up at 6am everyday with our son in the week and he has another hour sleeping in bed, he says he feels this is fair as our son has naps that total around 3 hours a day, he says I can sleep then. At the weekend I always get a lie in and he tends to take the baby out. Housework I do the lions share but he does always does anything I ask (would be great if he had the initiative, but hey ho).
Does this seem fair? I do occasionally feel I am doing more than I should be and it makes me feel annoyed but I am very aware I am feeling hormonal. I had a very traditional upbringing...SAHM and dad that worked away and never changed a nappy so have no real model on if my situation sounds right, and the majority of my friends have very different situations than myself so have no one to ask. I should also add I am happy in my marriage, I just dont want any resentment sneaking in!