Hi, I'm new here & It's taken me a few days to pluck up the courage to write this post. I have been with my partner for 20 years and we have a Daughter who's 13 I'm 38 and He's 40
In April on the Wednesday I found messages on His Apple Watch to about 7 Escorts something inside me told me to look so I did and my whole world came crashing down. The messages must have started from the week before because there was one that I saw & all the others was on the Monday they'd started on the Monday night about 7:30 she said hi love and he put what area and from that one text It must have started something Inside him to text more. There were ones saying hi babe you working this weekend? The one message he send on the Monday was to a woman he was asking how much for this n that n he Said can I see you after work tomorrow she said yes n he said he would call her the next day and she gave him her address. On the Tuesday when he was supposed to have gone round he came Home he was bang on tile if not a bit earlier. He was quiet didn't eat his tea and went to bed early. Then the next morning I find the messages. I threw him out he went to his moms house. He begged and begged to come home saying he would never go through with It I believed him. He came home a few days later n I had trust issues I was worried all the time he would get random emails saying hi ryan you still in the area? N I would question him he tried his best to make me feel like I had nothing to worry about but still I was worried. We had a row about an email and he snapped I went to my sisters woke early hours and drove back I found messages on his phone and watch he was In bed he's been drinking and taking drugs (he did this on and off and would tell him to leave, I don't know if he's been with anyone when he's left) I woke him up n he said no nobody's been here. We had a row he left after he left I found 2 condom wrappers In my kitchen bin and a baby wipe with pink lipstick on and a cigarette not an English one outside my back door. He's no longer In the house, they didn't do anything in my bed as I'd changed all the sheets and nothing was messed up they'd been doing It on my new sofa that I had 2 weeks prior. I'm devastated I must have missed her by half hour I haven't eaten a thing since It happened nearly 2 weeks ago. I googled all the phone numbers n I'm not joking they all look like they've been dug up. I've never had trust issues at all everyone we know Is so shocked by what he has done. All I have had from him Is I couldn't keep on living the way we was with you questioning me all the time, I was drunk n I thought why not I'm getting the blame for It anyway. I've got to go to the hospital tomorrow for bloods for Hepatitis as these are more common In sex workers and a full sti health check. I'm so upset that he could do this to me and even worse In out home. He's now set up a Facebook account (he's never had one) and Is adding all sorts on there. I am beside myself I don't know what to do 😢