Have I got an uncaring DP or is this normal in long relationships?

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Is it normal for your DP not to ask you how you are following a minor injury? I mean not at all. Not even when it's brought up in the context of asking him to move something because I couldn't.
I fortunately don't have much experience of injuries and the last major pain I remember was toothache which made me throw up and cry one morning. And I remember then he just seemed to get annoyed and told me to go to the dentist (even though I'd already been).
We've been together ages, I suppose this has never been an issue before as I've always been in good health.

Not looking for sympathy BTW. Injury is now fine!

That does sound a bit uncaring. How about if you need support for reasons other than illness, eg if you are tired / stressed / sad? Is he usually caring and supportive but has a bit of a blind spot for illness, or is he unsympathetic generally?

I've been with Dh for over 30 years. He looks after me after any kind of injury and makes sure I'm OK. I do the same for him.
We do take the piss out of each other when we are nearly ok but in a good humoured jokey way.

I’m not sure, because I was very recently moaning to my OH as he can be really unsympathetic when I’m unwell. However, when he’s unwell it’s all moans and groans and oh I’m so sick! I would prefer him to be more sympathetic and caring of me and tell me to rest up etc but it doesn’t really happen x

Your oh should be supportive and caring

Doesn’t sound like he is

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That does sound a bit uncaring. How about if you need support for reasons other than illness, eg if you are tired / stressed / sad? Is he usually caring and supportive but has a bit of a blind spot for illness, or is he unsympathetic generally?

Good question. If I'm stressed (which isn't that often) he's normally good at saying the right thing to make me feel better. Sadness, again not often, but he would hug me if I was crying. Perhaps he does have a blind spot for illness, yes.

10 years together and we still give a shit if the other is hurt.

I think it also depends how people express caring or expect caring to be expressed. My exMIL referred to me as cold and uncaring because my exH had toothache once when she visited. She spent the whole time flapping and saying "poor you, isn't it awful" type things. I bought pain killers, entertained the in laws, looked after the DC and made dentist appointments etc. Practical things, but no fuss

I was surprised my MIL said I'd shown a lack of care, but then I hate fussing so I don't tend to express my care with fussing. She was expecting lots of verbal fuss, and genuinely couldn't see that I was showing care a different way.

Long winded way of asking whether your DH expresses his care in the "wrong" way for you to feel cared for?

My ex was exactly the same way. If I was Ill or hurt he never asked how I was or check up on me. He was very cold and unsympathetic in those situations. It’s one of the many reasons he’s my ex.