Grieve for a man I won’t have

[lostandbroken21]

I got in to an affair with a guy who told me his relationship was over. He just said he was stuck. Now it’s come out he does love her and can’t leave her. He still wants me.
I’ve finally realised how under a spell I have been and I’ve ended it.

How do I get through this I have to work with him

Now it’s come out he does love her and can’t leave her. He still wants me.

To break the spell you think you're under, first admit to yourself that he might still want to flirt with / get attention from / shag you but he doesn't want to be with you. He's made his choice.

He's a run of the mill, cheating prick. Don't romanticise what you had. Don't put him on a pedestal.

And to be honest, look for a new job. Because from your 'he still wants me' comment, it's clear that if he fancies a flirt / kiss / shag / emotional conversations etc you won't say no and this will just continue to further damage your self esteem and stop you moving on.

No contact outside of work, start looking for a new job, learn from this lesson. That's how you move on.