Impotent husband

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HELP !!!!!
No sex since January but there was never much before.He's impotent and the doctor has even prescribed Viagra. Feel like I am living in a bad comedy sketch.
Have lost all patience/ ability to cope/ put brave face on. Have done it for years and now just cannot stand it anymore.
Anyone else??
Can't lead a barren life!!!!!!
Please, am at end of tether

I don't get what's wrong with Viagra? My dh has all manner of physical ailment that affect his wellbeing, but it has never occurred to me to think "don't take it", hell, if it works, go for it!

You're quite reasonable to feel as you do, and it is not a reflection on you as a woman, it's a very complex situation. Don't feel bad about taking whatever help is offered (i.e. the Viagra) - it may be enough that your dh feels the pressure has been taken off, if you know what I mean.

My DH and I have also had problems.

We had councelling and it did work although be prepared there are no quick fixes and both of you have to be 110% committed and honest with the therapist.

It took about 6 months to get an appointment and the therapy lasted for about 4-5 months. We also had "homework" and had to agree not to even attempt sex for over 2 months, intercourse for 3-4 months.

It was hard work but it does mean that DH can now perform. He does have the odd time when it doesn't work but we just go back to no intercourse for a few weeks/months and eventually it fixes it's self.

Get on the waiting list for counselling and in the mean time try the viagra.

If you love your husband and what your relationship to work please get some help. Don't give up on it.

I now have a beautiful 12 week old son

Hello
had to reply to this post (have changed name)as it really has struck a chord.

I've been with my DP for 3 years and we have a two year old son. Since DS was born we have had sex three times. When we do have sex it is tense and not enjoyable from my (or i supect my DP's) point of view.

We are both tired/stressed etc as are most parents of small children but I would still like some decent sex now and again, like I have experienced in previous relationships!

I have raised this as being a problem several times as I feel the lack of intimacy is turning our relationship into a functional co-habiting parental one and the 'love' or 'spark' that glues two people together is gradually fading.

My Dp maintains that 'sex is not everything' or that he is 'not a sexual person'??? but the problem is I AM!!!!!!!
TBH he has some MAJOR issues stemming back from childhood which are really at the root cause but he is unwilling/unable to address them.

Have almost come to the pont of leaving him, as cannot envisage another thirty or fourty flaming years like this, what a waste. Maybe the answer is to have an affair I ask myself, although this would have been inconceivable before being in this situation.

I suppose I just want to say you are not alone, I dont have the answers but like others have said maybe counselling is an option, and if you are really desperate for another child then I think there are 'methods' which can be used to obtain sperm which do not even involve an erection.

Sorry not much help but just wanted to share my sad tale .

Hey ladies I get where you are coming from I really do. I thought I was impotent once and the stress and psychological affects it can have certainly can take a toll on any man leaving him with no confidence and feeling inadequate every day. I am 33 years old now and I am very fit and healthy and have always been very active including swimming regularly and running multiple marathons every year but when I was dating my ex, we were together for over 8 years the last 4 of which we have no ontercourse at all. My desire for her was like an unlit candle. Many times We tried and I failed to keep an erection. Sometimes I would watch porn before hand in the bathroom and be hard as steel and big like a....... Anyways as soon as I attempted to make love with my girlfriend I could feel it shrinking and shriveling up and the embaresment was too much to bare so eventually I would stop trying. During the last 4 years of my relationship I would masterbate with no problems mainly in the shower and I was never caught so my sexual frustration was dealt with. Hoo rah for free porn. One day I decided to go visit my gp I was only 26 years old and I was sitting there telling this old Man that I can't get an erection to have sex with my girlfriend Some Of The questions he asked me were very embarrassing but I needed to fix my problem and I didn't want to take viagra. He asked me one last question which was, "do you wake up with an erection?", and how often do you wake up with one I know I do because it's usually the first thing I touch when I'm Awake. He said you are in only psychologically impotent. I was thinking I was impotent so I made myself impotent. The power of the mind is very powerfull. After this appointment with my doctor I decided I was going to change my life and its the best thing I did. I was looking at pictures of me and my girlfriend and I noticed how much we had changed over the last 8 years we had been together. I was still slim and toned and she had gotten big and ugly. She no longer attracted me in that way. Sorry to say this but I can't lie. her personality was amazing and she was the nicest person you could ever meet. Unfortunately though, At the end of the day we are just animals and you can't make. Love to a Sack of potatoes and be happy forever so I broke up with her and went out and found a new girlfriend and we have a very healthy sex life. Well I do anyways, sometimes I may finish a bit too quickly lol but for the most part we have sex 5 times a week
and sometimes I confess I am a bit lazy and get sucky sucky and then fall asleep lol. Maybe it's time to spice things up, make an effort and stop moaning ladies. We don't live forever. Some of the things I recommend is starting off slowly with just small regular foreplay. Sometimes don't finish him off (he will come back for more) I hate it when my girlfriend starts sucky sucky and then goes and cooks dinner before I finish. She knows what she is doing because sex on the kitchen floor has become a regular thing and it stops me. From being a. Lazy bum. Don't wait forever in the evening for him to come to bed with you, go to bed and let him. Come when. He wants. Don't be afraid to get the vibratory out and let him hear you moan or see you watch porn. Some. Of. The best sex I had was after catching my gf watching porn and masterbating after she told me. She was going to bed. I walk in and boing. I'm ready to go.