I’m back in court this morning with abusive ex and I’m nervous!

[Letdown16]

Round I’ve lost count now, maybe 6 or seven.

I’m in court again over child access. This time it’s the outcome over the section 7 report. Fact finding done and found to be guilty of the abuse so section 7 also come back only indirect contact at the moment.

He wants to challenge the section 7 as still saying I have made it all up and wants some direct contact. My barrister is going for a closure of the case until he has done the steps asked for.

I get so overwhelmed when I have to go to court, it drags it all up. He also makes me feel like maybe I am making it all up, perhaps he is right but I’m sure that’s just all the gaslighting.

I hate all this and want it to be over with now.

No @FenceWalker that does not help at all.
My ex had been found guilty of the allegations and admitted to them but is denying being abusive just overly passionate.... I also have evidence and police reports so can’t be disputed.

I can’t claim legal aid as I own my own home.

I bloody wish I’d made it all up coz then I could just go ha there you go I got you back and my chronic fatigue is all gone and the ptsd was all a lie and I can live a happy life knowing I’d got some payback.

Get signed off work till after the next hearing. Use the time to relax and sleep. Apply for legal aid if you don't get it self represent. You have come so so far. He also knows your limitations and is hoping you will cave in. Just keep going.

You can still get legal aid if you own a house. It goes as a second charge if you sell it. So you will have to pay legal fees but at a much much lower rate and will only have to pay it back if you decide to sell your house.

@Justmeandme19 I can’t get legal aid as I have a house, they just said I would end up with a charge on the house and need to sell to pay them. I also can’t afford to be off sick as then can’t pay my mortgage.

But I will keep going because I have no choice. What kind of mum would I be if I gave up.

Sorry.
I did some research into how my ex could have possibly received legal aid, considering all allegations were false and not taken into account. And, this is what I concluded, and found were needed. A GP report, a police report and contact to a women’s organisation. That’s it.

@Letdown16, you have my complete sympathies. I know a little of what you are going through. Courts do not protect children as the bar for contact is too low. I suspect at some stage this period of time will be recognised as scandalous.
Check out Rachel Watson on Twitter or rachelwatsonbooks.com as she is campaigning for children and ex partners to be protected.