Future faking?

[Rozziie]

Having ventured onto OLD and having had weirdly positive encounters so far (men being polite, not forward, etc.), I've had two messages from two different men tonight referencing stuff 'we' can do this summer or in the future. Men I have never even met or messaged before today!

This gives me the heeby jeebies and makes me want to unmatch. Am I overreacting? The ones I've talked to so far have been very laid back and haven't even suggested meeting 1-2 after weeks of chat (which is kind of the other extreme) so seeing some actual interest is nice but the future faking makes me a bit uncomfortable. Surely they should not be talking about any future plans whatsoever on the first day of messaging?

I wouldn't necessarily call this sort of thing future faking either. It's impossible to determine the tone over text and its very possible they were mentioning holidays only in a tongue in cheek kind of way. I remember one conversation I had and we were talking about building an extension to move in together after just 1 day of messages! It was all said very tongue in cheek and I didn't take any offense to it.

I think - its 2021 after all - there's nothing wrong with being the first to suggest meeting up, especially if the conversation is beginning to drag on. It's definitely better to try and meet those you find interesting early on.

Frame of mind I think is key to success with OLD. Just see it as a bit of fun. Trust your instincts and you'll soon learn to spot the weirdos. Also agree with @Opentooffers it's best to only swipe and match with people when you have some free time in the next week or so - so that if you do match with someone you like that you are actually available to meet up.

Not overreacting at all OP. I've dated some oddballs including one who told me he loved me on our first date. When I asked how he could possibly know his reply was that he just decided he was going to love me!!! Stupidly I went on a few more dates where his behaviour only got weirder - what finally did it for me was when he told me his brother has been murdered- I was shocked and asked him when - 2000 years ago was his reply. That was the final straw for me - blocked!!!
Personally I try to arrange a date within the first 2 weeks of chatting. If they're not interested then I don't pursue it.