Confront an emotional blackmailer?

[Acrisppacket]

I have a relative who is extremely needy. She wants to be around people constantly, hanging out with them and wants to talk to people on the telephone constantly. She is like this with everyone not just me. She has a boyfriend that she lives with and is with constantly so she is never alone. Im 37 weeks pregnant and exhausted so want to be left alone and this has triggered her to have some sort of breakdown. She keeps trying to emotionally blackmail me into hanging out with her by saying her mental health depends on it. My family say I need to confront her if I want her to stop but how do I go about it without being nasty?

Just apologise and say you aren't a professional and maybe she needs to see one.
Back away. My relative was similar. Kicked off somewhat I wasn't going to her home to cook Xmas dinner as my dd was due Xmas eve!! She never rang to see if she arrived safely or not!!
In fact it was the end of our relationship tbh. When she died she left the lot to her carer!! No money was worth being at her beck and call! No regrets..

You tell her you're emotionally exhausted by her neediness. If she sees that as nasty, that's on her, not you.

Just say sorry but you have been advised by doctors to rest and have no stress or worry. . So you'll contact her when you feel better. How selfish is she.

Send her a nice card with " I'm finding late pregnancy pretty stressful and tiring, so asking friends to please give DP and me some space and quiet time together until after the birth. I know you'll understand" .

Then turn your phone off /block her number/ just don't answer her calls. If she pesters, let DP send her a text " As requested, please leave us alone ".

“I am prioritising my own mental health at the moment, so will be spending my time resting and relaxing, and will not be able to spend time with you. I am sure you will understand and respect this.

Love,
@Acrisppacket“.

Is it your mother? It's the kind of thing mine would do.

I'd just ignore calls/texts unless I wanted to answer. I'd probably send one message that said Sooo exhausted just now! Resting quietly until baby comes or similar.

I'd ignore anything else. (Although, I'm a bit of a bitch and might simply send a thumbs up emoji to anything really dramatic and blackmail-y suggesting that she was about to die if she didn't see me)

Her needs don't outweigh yours.

Here's the truth as I see it. NOBODY has a right to demand that their needs are met by a certain person (Okay okay maybe children and babies have a right to demand that their parents meet their care needs ). She/he may have a specific need for company that they want to get met, but they have no right to demand that you and specifically you meet it.

Consider this your official "you're off the hook" if you need permission from somebody.

If it were me, I would point out that demanding that you meet their needs is emotional blackmail, but it does rather depend on the situation in general to know if this is a wise move or not. But I am bloody minded, and the more somebody tried to insist that I had to meet their needs over and above my own, the more I would dig my heels in and prioritise my own needs over theirs every time.

You got to start acting like you're tougher than you feel with her - or, like me you can just be blunt and to the point and not let any feelings of guilt affect you inappropriately (a little guilt for having to be tough with her is ok and that's about it in this situation)

I'd be like "sorry - i need to focus on myself and my own mental health and my pregnancy".
I've experienced some of that level of needy behaviour from more than one person and it's awful - and they know what they're doing.,....