Together 27 years with teens. Had an incident over the weekend where DS turned the hose on and accidently left it on for some time (hour or 2). DH came home from work and went mental (I wasn't here). Understandable to be upset by wasted water but his response was to stab holes in the blow up paddling pool (not involved in hose-gate but to him a representation of wasted water) and when I got home to continue to tell me what had happened, what he had done, and if I brought another pool he would leave me (out of the blue - I hadn't said I was going to buy another one). I told him is anger at the wasted water was fine but the following anger and actions were not. He calmed down a few hours later. This is just an example of his behaviour. Of course it isn't all the time - if it was I wouldn't be here, but it is more than I think is normal. Maybe something like this happens maybe 6 times a year (over time some years it would be more some less) Is this normal? I know everyone loses it sometimes. I had boyfriends before we were together but honestly this is the only real adult relationship I have had other than very short lived ones of just a couple of months. It has been interspersed throughout our relationship - sometimes throwing things across a room, storming out of the house and coming back the next day. He has had several falling outs with friends over the years, even arguments with strangers on the odd occasion. I am not a timid person but in the past have just bit my tongue and said nothing. There have been some other issues I am confronting now also and so I am much more vocal that I have been before when things happen (but very calm - as is my nature). He will say I am totally overreacting. I am exhausted by it and it is not the way I want my life to be even if it is not that often.