Hi all,
Married mum to two amazing girls age 7 and 3.
There are so many cons to having a 3rd. Mainly my husband is dead against it and is happy with our two.
Financially it would be a stretch. I love my job and I'm on a project for 12 months so it would be a nightmare in terms of mat leave etc.. I'd need a bigger car. We have just moved to a 3 bed home to allow our girls to have a room each and more space. Our youngest was, up until a couple of months ago, a terrible sleeper so we feel like we have just come out of that zombie state and are actually able to get a bit of me time together and individually now.
The girls are becoming more independent (obviously for a 3 year old) so its not as relentless. Childcare has become less expensive as we now get the 30 hours. Holidays are harder with 3.
We have lots going on as we have a dog and are pretty busy with activities etc we try to be a kind to the planet as much as we can and having children affects that. I had spd in both pregnancies and needed private physio in both and actually I don't always find parenting all that easy and rewarding.
With all the above in mind my head says no way. But I can't shake wanting another baby off. I keep dreaming about being pregnant. I feel upset when I think about never having another baby and I feel annoyed with dh when he's says no. My heart aches for another. People say to me you know when your done and I don't feel done.
How can I stop feeling like this.
Has anyone else gone through similar.