I split up with my boyfriend of 3 years on friday. He burst in the bedroom drunk and naked at 3am wanting to have sex. Obv I was shocked and anxious it made me jump! We'd had a chat the night before as I felt I wasnt getting much break from our 11 month old and was feeling really tired and out of sorts, he was v understanding said he'd help out more, so him bursting in the room like that really upset me.
OH has recently taken on more weekend work - every other weekend (when his 2 kids wont be here) and I was feeling overwhelmed as it meant more time with the baby on my own. He misses his kids so much we dont get hardly any time together those weekends either as they're all glued to each other, I do understand this tho, I couldnt live without mine!!
I love being with the baby, it's just stressful if I dont get much of a break and just lately its only if I'm asleep. I have an 8 year old DS too, hes lovely but a bit hormonal/moody atm.
DP used to be great with helping out but for the past couple of months he's stopped, I know he's knackered he works in a hard manual job and does every other night with the babe so I'm happy to do the house stuff...I just am getting annoyed as he's messy, or will leave soaked bath mat down/not wash up when he's made himself bacon in the morning etc, I think he needs to take responsibility for himself.
He gets alot of hassle from his ex and his boss and that's stressful, so he can be moody alot. I'm supportive/there for him but it's really started to bring me down that he wont do anything about work sitch. Not much he can do about crazy ex as she'll stop him seeing the kids if he says too much to her.
Feel like I'm rambling now... basically the issue is when he does something wrong, like this morning he gets defensive straight away, he didn't apologise so I said "it took me over an hour to get back to sleep last night" so he got shitty with me, brought up last time I did something wrong and stormed off to work. He's done this more than once and I'm left bewildered, all he had to say was sorry but he wont.
He's creeping now being nice, taking the baby out, also going along with the split, saying he needs to save to move out but still loves me loads....but he still hasnt said sorry or tried to sort things out?! It's weird behaviour isnt it?!
Sorry for the massive post, I'm hurt and confused and unbiased opinions will help, thank u in advance.