Briefly, then. My partner of 6 years and I are spending a week away with his friends at the end of July. I've had contact from my aunt to say she's hosting a surprise get-together for my uncle and she'd love us to be there. Fab! Except it's the day we travel down to the cottage where we're meeting the friends....half an hour's drive from where we're staying, coincidentally.
I explained to my partner. Put it to him that we could make a detour to the gathering, then head on down to the cottage later that day.
He reacted pretty badly. Said it would be incredibly rude of us to delay time with 'our friends'. Implied it's a massive cheek for me to even suggest it.
I told him the timing is unfortunate, but it's important to me to catch up with family I've not seen in years. He said as I've not seen them in so long, I should prioritise The Friends and honour the original plan.
I said fine, I'll go on my own and he can travel to cottage with The Friends. Reasoned I might as well extend time with family, have a couple of drinks and drive to cottage the next morning. He said curtly yes, that is the best plan.
I'm hurt he's basically snubbed me and my family in favour of friends he sees every week. Interestingly, I ran into one of them 2 days ago and he said 'I hear you're off to a party'. I told him I'd rather not be going alone and it would only have meant delaying our arrival by a few hours. He told me I have to respect the choice made.
I can't bring myself to speak to my partner about it as it will no doubt escalate. Thoughts, please.