I am so done with men

[IFuckingHateMen]

Anyone else who is dating, have you completely had enough?

I like to think I’m a decent catch. I’m young enough to still have children, I’m attractive, own home, good job etc. Yet I rarely get a match. When I do, they never respond to texts, ever.

This week I arranged to meet up with an old FWB. He cancelled on me last minute.

Had a date tonight. Nobody I was particularly interested in but I really just needed a night out. I haven’t been out since before covid. He stood me up. He fucking stood. Me. Up.

Why are men so utterly shit?

What do you mean, you rarely get a match? Are you just doing OLD? Doomed to fail... I met a man on a date once but both disappointed. I'm 5ft 5". He was about 5ft 1". There are better ways of meeting men.

Perhaps the man tonight could sense you weren't interested. Same with the FWB.

It sounds like you need a break until they all stop seeming like b*stards.

Yes, but it’s the reverse for me, done with women ...

Stood you up? How incredibly rude. Have you called to ask where the hell he got to?

Probably married.

Do you mean 'match' as in online dating?

If so, why aren't you 'done' with that instead of men in general?

Because the FWB let me down because he’s a wet blanket but I really like him.

He date tonight blocked me.

My best friend has let me down this week too. Also male.

It must be me

Dating is totally shit sometimes OP, I’ve been there and I feel for you. It’s not your fault at all , but it’s also important to remember that not all men that are like that, there really are some good ones out there. Maybe have a little break from dating, take care of yourself and when you’re ready get back out there.

@IFuckingHateMen

Because the FWB let me down because he’s a wet blanket but I really like him.

He date tonight blocked me.

My best friend has let me down this week too. Also male.

It must be me

It’s NOT just you I can assure you from personal experience . Take ten minutes to look around here at the threads from women hurt who are dating then those who have been hurt by men they have been with a year, five years or twenty years. Sure, you’ll get those who with say mn is biased and women are posting here about problem men but then go take a look outside mn at the sexual harrassment, rapes , porn and webcam addiction and who’s paying for prostitutes etc and you’ll quickly see the problem is NOT you. Men can complain all they like about women being ‘ just as bad on dating sites but I’m yet to see a world where women are routinely assaulting , harassing men. There biggest complaint seems to be that women want a tall man or someone who has a job All I can say is there are some good ones , very few IMO. ‘ the best we women can do is be content with the possibility of not meeting one of these few abd just enjoy our lives . Possibly give the dating sites a break as suggested . We are worth so much more than what most men are offering us

If you mean you never get a match on online dating then either the site you are using is not great or theres something wrong with your profile. Or you aren't swiping right much yourself.

Get on tinder, it's easy for women to get matches there.

If you mean in the less literal sense then yeah, finding a match is hard work.

@IFuckingHateMen

Anyone else who is dating, have you completely had enough?

I like to think I’m a decent catch. I’m young enough to still have children, I’m attractive, own home, good job etc. Yet I rarely get a match. When I do, they never respond to texts, ever.

This week I arranged to meet up with an old FWB. He cancelled on me last minute.

Had a date tonight. Nobody I was particularly interested in but I really just needed a night out. I haven’t been out since before covid. He stood me up. He fucking stood. Me. Up.

Why are men so utterly shit?

Wait a minute, you went on a date with someone you were not really interested in, just for a night out?

Maybe he got the feeling you weren't too interested and would not be disappointed.

I met my DP on OLD, there are good ones out there.

no it is not you! You just need to realize that it is not easy to find a good man, and that you will need to put time in, because most of the cases just won't work. It is actually quite logical that there are few men that fit with you. Otherwise it would mean could be together with anyone.

so one tip, get your expectations of individual dates down and meet a lot of them.

and if you don't get matches on OLD than that must mean your profile isn't good. Just ask a friend to select a picture for you, and don't put too much text on it. Especially don't put a "wish list" on it.

good luck there is somebody out there for you, you just didn't meet him yet. And that is fine.

Not all men are utterly shit by any means, they really are not.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up then?.

Stop further lowering your already low relationship bar here by wanting to meet a previous wet blanket of a FWB or a man who you've had no previous interest in (again because you're lonely). Demand and expect better for yourself here. Love your own self for a change and reassess your boundaries.

If you feel that all the men you meet are shit, its because you are unconsciously sending out vibes to these men. They can spot a target a mile off.