My partner of a few months (not sure if partner is best description but we are exclusive) has been wanting time to himself to get work done. We are in our 30s, this is just extra stuff he needs to do for a promotion.
Last weekend he asked if we could meet sat eve, I would stay over then leave him to work Sunday (met a friend) and come back in the eve on Sunday for dinner and stay. It was fine, obviously didn’t see much of him but dinner out Saturday eve was nice and it was nice having a quiet eve on Sunday, though he spent the majority of it faffing around with house admin like washing etc...I would rather have spent time with him properly like watching by a film etc but I wasn’t too bothered by it and it was nice to be around each other.
It gets to the middle of last week and he’s funny about how much free time he will have at the weekend. I suggest doing the same as last weekend ie have the days to ourselves. He is hesitant, says he didn’t get as much done last weekend as he wanted to as he was just excited for me to come back on Sunday and it was rubbish saying bye for the day Sunday morning.
I said fine let’s just meet Sunday eve then and I will stay until Tuesday - work from his on Monday. He doesn’t work remotely so won’t be in the house. He’s fine with that idea.
Anyway... sorry the background was so long! I’ve had a full day today with friends and meeting a friend tomorrow before I head over to DP’s - not sure what time as we haven’t confirmed.
But I’m just sitting here now wondering why on a sunny Saturday night I’m not with my partner. He’s been on WhatsApp too so not exactly switched phones off and head down to work and realistically he’s not going to have been working from 8am to 10pm is he. I reckon when we see each other he will casually mention he got take out or watched a film. I find it upsetting.
He’s on the spectrum so doesn’t always understand if I am hurt by something. I want to text him and say I’m disappointed we didn’t meet tonight and have a proper functioning relationship. Is that unfair? Would that be a stupid text to send? I want to be supportive of him and yes I could have made other plans this evening but it was only decided on Wednesday that we wouldn’t meet... most people my age are with their other half’s on Saturday night so not many people to catch up with.
I’m just fed up. Haven’t even heard from him today. In all other ways he’s into the relationship but this makes me feel he doesn’t give a shit