I've seen quite a few threads on here where the DH is hassling for sex all the time, sometimes just out of enthusiasm, sometimes as a controlling behaviour, either way the woman does not want this. I can see this isn't very nice at all, but what about partners who just never ever even notice you? I might as well go round with a bag over my head. I have tried flaunting myself in front of him, not a flicker. To be clear, I don't want him anymore anyway and have told him we will never have a physical relationship again and am going through the process of trying to find a way to break free. I told him this 2 years ago, but it's been ongoing for 10 years now. How unusual is it for a man to go through his 40s into his 50s and never try anything on with his wife, never watch porn, never masturbate, never have an erection and be content with a night lying on the sofa in front of the telly. Every night. I want to confront him on it, but feel like it's too hard a conversation to have. Ten years is a long time to go without sex as a woman, but is it more unusual for a man? I guess I'm looking for a justifiable reason for us to separate, when in his eyes things are 'ok'....