I've only gone and turned into a NAG!! Tips on what you do to have your needs met in a relationship

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I've felt taken for granted and a bit neglected. And I've found I've started doing what I swore I never wanted to do......NAG.
Ahhhhhhh
Dislike this version of me

Generally I find nagging issues a term only ever directed at women! And it basically just means having to repeatedly ask for x y or z.

If you are having to repeatedly ask your partner to meet your needs, basically you have a partner who is not meetings your needs - for whatever reason.
So I'd be evaluating whether or not they should still be your partner!

Have you had a grown-up conversation where you've explained that you feel this way?

My DP and I have both had previous relationships where we felt like this, and we now make active conscious decisions not to take the other for granted. We check in regularly to make sure the other one is feeling good and cared-for (and of course we have to be truthful because otherwise that is how resentment builds up). It all sounds a bit navel-gazing, I know, but honestly it works for us. My DP is very emotionally literate and he has encouraged me to get used to talking about feelings and my own needs in the relationship. Its bizarre, but it really works.

Hire a cleaner and take yourself away for the weekend.

React to his selfish by detaching not nagging

Staycalm - how do u tread the line between detaching and growing a part? Thats what im worried about if i detach.

The repeatedly asking is about some time together doing some fun stuff. We are passing ships in the night at min

I can certainly detach and go off and do my own things...

I guess the detaching is only done in place of fighting, to protect yourself.