Hi, I have never posted here before but I need to talk to someone and I have no one around me.
My partner and I moved in together almost a year ago. When we met I had 4 children (now aged 22,17,15 & 11) and my dad (77) living with us as we’d just lost my mum to cancer.
He wanted us to buy a house together knowing what my responsibilities were. My dad gave us the £30000 deposit to buy the house and we found a a beautiful big house and all moved in together.
Since then everything will be going along fine until he has what I can only describe as an outburst where he is kicking off at me telling me how I don’t compromise on anything and that the compromise is all his by him living with all of us. He is telling me that my eldest daughter who is now 22 needs to move out as does my dad and he even wants me to get rid of the family pets (one is an elderly dog called Ellie who belonged to my mum, who he wants to have put to sleep, so you can imagine the feelings there). He says it’s unreasonable of me when I say these are things I can’t compromise on! He knew what our situation was when we moved in together.
He also walks around saying he’s supporting everyone just for us to take the piss. He makes me feel so small, he pays the mortgage, I pay all of the bills (which equate to the same as the mortgage, even though he earns 4 times what i do) and my dad buys all of the groceries.
He is so adamant that this is me and he’s the one who puts in all of the effort but surely it isn’t just me who thinks he’s being unreasonable? This is my family we’re talking about. 😞