First date walk

[firstdatenerves]

I am going on a first date with a guy I've been chatting to for a while and we've decided to do a walking date.

I was planning on going very casual - think jeans, tshirt of some sort, trainers.

I'm plus-size and short. I usually wear jeggings, currently folded up at the bottom, sort of a cropped look.

Do you think this is too casual? Are jeggings ok?

I want to be comfortable - for obvious reasons but also because I don't want to sweat my arse off on the date!

Any advice?!

@Umberellatheweatha

I think jeggings roled up at the bottom might make you look shorter than you are? Otherwise you might get away with it. Though I'd be inclined to wear something that covers my butt in leggings...not sure if it's the same with jeggings?

Personal opinion but I dont think I'd be too impressed if in a first date the person turned up proper casual. I mean a tshirt and cute shorts and some converse might be ok because it could be cute... but jeggings and trainers...might not be wise.

I kinda think date one sets the barr for effort tbh. Of course it's important to be comfortable but it's a casual walk, not a hike so I'm sure you could cute it up a little.

Maybe add a necklace and some bracelets?

Hard to tell without seeing it of course but theres nothing worse than going on a date and realising you really fancy him and wishing youd made more effort. I say rethink, personally.

I agree. There's ways to make a casual look be nice so you don't look like you've just rolled out of bed for a jog around the park! I'd be wearing more "dressy" white trainers for example.

@Rocaille

Yes, she should spend money on HERSELF!! Not some random Internet fuck boy. Have some manners: you invite a woman out, you pay.

@Rocaille Couldn't agree more, especially in the age of online dating when men are often asking multiple women out initially. I've had a lot of men tell me on the low that they happily go 50/50 on dates where they're unsure/ambivalent of the woman but always pay for her if they're keen to see where it goes because they know it makes a statement to her.

Everyone knows women are physically able to pay for their meals in this day and age and don't need money from men, so if a man offers to pay for her, the chivalrous gesture actually means more nowadays.

The above is about dates that have money involved but I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with a guy asking out a woman on a first date which is a walk, if there's nice weather, especially in this age of covid.

Lol I didn't realise that in the age of equality women are more equal than men.

I insist on paying because I'm an equal, with equal thoughts, feelings, entitlement and the means to buy myself a drink.

I also, as a fully grown adult (who just happens to have a vagina rather than a penis) decide if I want to go on a date with a man, have an equal level of the decision making related to said date, whether I want to have sex with a man and finally if I want to see them again.

If I met a freeloading, useless, bloke I don't date them. If I decide to have sex with a man its based on whether I want to, not to keep them sweet so they will see me again and for the record I don't care whether they are dating multiple women, I'm probably going to also be dating multiple men, until I find someone worthy of my full time and attention. I believe meeting men eye to eye on an equal footing in all areas, not just the ones that suit my needs or not.

A man who is dating multiple women can easily be the same man who pays for the whole date, just like he can also be the same man who thinks 3 cocktails and a meal buys him sex lol.

But in any case the thread was about outfit advice for a casual first time date so I'll leave it there.

As I said, good luck op have fun.

A first date with someone you met online is different to a first date to someone you've all ready met irl (in a bar, at work, through a friend, etc). I see a first date with someone from online as just a chance to meet them to see if there's any connection/ spark, so a walk or coffee is just fine. If that goes well, then the next date should be somewhere more interesting.

Back to the OP's question, I think jeans and a T-shirt are just fine so long as they're clean and well fitting. The important thing is that you feel comfortable. Hope it goes well!

@Rocaille

Yes, she should spend money on HERSELF!! Not some random Internet fuck boy. Have some manners: you invite a woman out, you pay.

If invite someone out, on a 1st date I would expect to pay, I would also expect my date to at least offer to go half’s, if there was no offer, no second date, screw that attitude

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. He's dating you, not your clothes. As long as you look clean & that you've made some kind of effort, all will be good 😊. My first date with my boyfriend was swimming in a lake in my swimsuit. I got fed up with OLD & thought he can see the real me. If he doesn't like it, it's his loss. Obviously worked, still together nearly 2 years on

@Joy69

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in. He's dating you, not your clothes. As long as you look clean & that you've made some kind of effort, all will be good 😊. My first date with my boyfriend was swimming in a lake in my swimsuit. I got fed up with OLD & thought he can see the real me. If he doesn't like it, it's his loss. Obviously worked, still together nearly 2 years on

Thank you, this is where I'm at.

I want him to see me. Hence the jeans and the trainers. And if that isn't good enough that's fine by me.

Thank you x

It's odd how threads on this board with innocent initial questions seem to get derailed.

OP it should be fine. He'll be interested in you not the clothes.

My 1st date was a walk on the beach with mr fix. The weather was questionable so I wore jeggings, top, fleece and a hat !! No make up. It was comfortable and in my eyes casual , if it was to casual for him then his loss. Have been on a few more dates since. All outdoors and involved walks so I dressed accordingly. Did wear a fabulous (if I do say so myself) maxi dress to the last one as the weather was great. . Next date is a meal and a hotel stay and going to make a bit of an effort. He will not know me 🤣🤣
Moral of the story . If u have been chatting him enough to meet up then dress in a way you are happy with. It’s you he wants to get to know not ur dress style

I think jeggings are lovely and can be dressed up with a nice top ( I like tunic tops best which just cover bum) while still being comfy. Can always add a necklace or bracelet to accessorise. Good luck on your date OP. From a safety pov, I would stick to populated area for the walk (well lit if it’s in the evening)

Not the whole walking date debate again! If OP likes walking let her walk! Maybe she doesn’t like restaurant dates. I don’t!

For my first and only Tinder date (still with him!) I wore leggings with denim hot pants over them, and a denim jacket! This is how I generally dress anyway. It was a pub date. My shoes were awful (I was staying at my mom’s and they were the only ones I had with me).

I still pulled! I don’t think nice men notice or care that much what women wear. So wear something that you are comfortable in and that feels like you.

Good luck!

I know it's obvious but do stay safe OP and don't go walking off into any woodland or remote areas. Wear what you like and comfortable shoes.