So I need some non-judgemental advice please.
I have been in a relationship for 4 years with a man who I love a lot. He is very kind, funny and has many great qualities. However, he has been struggling with his mental health a lot recently and I'm not sure how I can help him. He has rather severe anxiety which I believe originates from childhood trauma and he has recently admitted to be that some days he wakes up and wishes he was dead.
Last year, I had some CBT to try and help me deal with some issues and it really helped me a lot. I have suggested that DP tries this but he is hesitant and afraid of judgement, despite my reassurance that the therapist will have heard a lot worse and is only there to help. His anxiety does sometimes negatively affect our relationship, he can be quite down and low and sometimes I don't understand his thought processes which leads to arguments. I can't help but feel sometimes that his anxiety will hold him back, and subsequently me if he doesn't get to the bottom of it. He is often reluctant to try new things, isn't as sociable as me etc.
I am very understanding and sensitive of mental health issues and I know that I probably cannot imagine how he feels at times. As bad as it sounds, sometimes I wonder how life would be if I was with someone with less emotional baggage and if this is how I want to live the rest of my life. We are not married and don't have children so that doesn't come into the mix.
I know I love him very much, and he loves me, but is it wrong to leave if he refuses help? Or is this something he has to do in his own time? Please help a confused lady out!