Single parents and dating

[Oneanddone03]

I’m a 30yo single mum, my son is 20 months old.

Although I’m not ready for dating yet and intend on being single for a while, I do get scared sometimes that I may never meet someone else when I am ready to date.

Some positive dating as a single parent in your 30s stories would be nice to hear?

🙋 met someone on tinder months after splitting from DD dad. He is lovely, definitely my happiest and healthiest relationship, been together over 2 years now. Don't live together yet as I want to be engaged before someone comes to live with us but it is possible!

I’m a single parent and been single for almost 5 years. I do think the longer you leave it the harder it becomes, can’t see myself meeting anyone now.

I split from DS' dad when I was 37. DS was 4.

By 39 I had met DP on Tinder - he is utterly amazing and sometimes I can't quite believe my luck. We've been together 18 months and will be moving in together later on this year all being well

I've been single for year and half and no luck what so ever I'm 33 and feel like I'm never gunna meet anyone I just don't see how with no childcare at all 😞

Wow! That’s amazing. How did you meet do you mind me asking?

@HelloCanYouHearMe

I split from DS' dad when I was 37. DS was 4.

By 39 I had met DP on Tinder - he is utterly amazing and sometimes I can't quite believe my luck. We've been together 18 months and will be moving in together later on this year all being well

That’s lovely. So nice to hear a positive story like that!

@Jojojo32

I've been single for year and half and no luck what so ever I'm 33 and feel like I'm never gunna meet anyone I just don't see how with no childcare at all 😞

That sounds really hard. Do you not have any family close that could help you?

I've managed to find a good one, but my god did I come across some... interesting characters along the way!

I knew DP was a keeper when I asked if he put crisps in sandwiches and got a very detailed response immediately about what crisp flavours went with which filling!

I am 44, I have no partner, I have an ex in france that would like a baby eith me, but I feel I need social support, if anything happens to me who will look after my child

@PaperNapkin

I am 44, I have no partner, I have an ex in france that would like a baby eith me, but I feel I need social support, if anything happens to me who will look after my child

If you'd like to investigate having children at 44, I'd advise you to book an appointment with a fertility clinic as chances of conceiving and carrying a pregnancy including a live birth are extremely low for your age. IVF success rates are around 3% as per NHS statistics. Would you consider donor eggs? Do you have family/siblings who you could entrust in a will in case of death? I'm not deliberately trying to be negative as I've recently undergone IVF as a solo female, and I appreciate the issues involved.

Would not like donor eggs, feel like I have been cheated as my condition not diagnosed until 40, I tried for 4 years with ex for 4 hrs, was difficult due to midcycle bleeding which my gp would not investigate

I’ve no idea how people do it, eventually my two youngest will be going to their dads every other weekend but my eldest will be with me all the time and I’ve not got any real childcare, he is going to be 13 by the time I’ll be done with my degree and have some free headspace to consider dating. So possibly be easier to arrange childcare or go for a lunch date maybe whilst he stays home, depends on his maturity at the time I suppose.

I’m definitely not ready for any kind of dating for a long while after abusive ex and my degree workload and I can imagine being a single mum of 3 will put off 99% if not all men so I’m not sure if I’ll even get the opportunity to date again?

I’d like to think so but who knows!