Hi all,
I'm fairly new here so if I post incorrectly, do correct me.
I got married a few months ago (my husband is my cousins husbands brother ) so we did know of them. Anyways since the past two years while we we're talking, they've had many fallouts with me over 'lack of effort', 'not going over to theirs etc' so my bf at the time told me to not go as they were disrespectful to me (my cousin and his brother's family). It was to the point that we wouldn't talk, his parents would ask us to speak to them to 'clear the air' my family would end up getting disrespected, we'd then stop communication with them. Yet his parents would always push my parents to make the first move, any times I'd show that I'm upset or I'd tell them that this is what they're doing I was told as the wife of the younger son I need to be nice and civil.
Now that we are married, we've began going to their house etc, they've said to my husband to leave the differences aside and move forward. I've now started to go over etc.
His sister in law/ my cousins mum, who is also my auntie, hasn't even congratulated my parents (she's my dads sister, or my mum or even me) - I have spoken to her for the sake of my husband, thinking that they've left things aside.
Not once have they come over to my house, once my cousin and husbands SIL ignored me in a religious event, ignored my mum and sister and spoke just to my husband. I raised this with him and his parents, they didn't respond I carried on being civil.
Just recently, his brother has done the same to my parents and ignored them.
I feel very torn as I can't even stick up for my parent's getting disrespected like this.
What should I do?