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Struggling not to take over ... advice please

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foundahammer · 09/06/2021 21:21

Long story short .
In my marriage I had to do everything and I mean everything .... think lazy useless procrastinating man child.
Now I'm in a relationship of nine months and I'm struggling not to take over.
I'm not used to a man organising his life , weekends away , dates , food shopping etc .
I am a doer so if I see a hotel deal or decode on a dinner date , I want to book immediately . My bf is laid back but very self sufficient . I'm finding it hard to relinquish control in that I always had to do everything so it's all I know !
Can anyone relate or advise please ?
I don't want to destroy this

OP posts:
category12 · 09/06/2021 21:36

Nothing wrong with booking dates. Perhaps make it a rule for yourself that you alternate though, so if he booked something last time, you book the next time.

Leave his domestic stuff the hell alone.

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