I've told him to go!

[MiaMummaCat]

So, I'm just sitting down with a cuppa & I could really do with a hug. I confronted my husband with the fact that I know he's cheating on me, and I want him out of the house. I was calm, polite and quite matter of fact about - I didn't cry, despite my heart beating so fast as I confronted him. I'm feeling quite proud of myself!
I've walked away to another room to allow him time to think about it!
Would very much appreciate some support from you lovely people out there right now! Thank you :) xxx

Well, obviously don’t know you, but very proud of you! Well done. No-one should put up with that sort of crap. Off you trot!
Take care of yourself

Well done and keep us posted. With love from my cat who is called Mia!

After allowing him to stay because of Covid and job loss , I am finally getting rid on my lying , cheating husband this week.
Scary times after a long marriage over 30 years. But I am hoping that my hurt , anger and despair will no longer be a daily thing anymore.
Hope we both find peace and happiness.

Call me petty but I hope you get some satisfaction from the fact he obviously thought you were stupid enough that he could fool you... yet you've turned the tables and completely blindsided him. Good on you

Hopefully he'll be decent about the house, etc.

Well done, @MiaMummaCat! However, don't rely on this ^^.

There are so many threads on here where the the husband/partner behaves badly once leaving, and they stopped and thought about their own position. Eg: clearing out the joint account and/or joint savings, hiding funds, lying about their pension pot, etc.

Apart from taking the good advice of a previous poster and getting yourself a very good lawyer ASAP (and not agreeing to an informal arrangement between you which could be to your financial detriment) do ensure, as soon as you can, that you change all passwords on your own bank account(s) so he has no access to them, even if you think he doesn't know them. Even if you think he wouldn't do this - better to be wise before the event...

Good luck for the future, OP. 🌹

@Stillfunny, wishing you all the best. You can do it!

Hope you're feeling ok this morning OP ❤️

@Stillfunny - Sorry to hear this - a similar situation to mine. I genuinely feel liberated having summoned up the courage to tell him to go. The Relate website has some really helpful information on it, especially about the different stages you go through during a relationship breakdown.
I wish you the very best for the future xx

@Sparklingwine1 - thank you so much....in the words of James Brown "I feel good"! Off to work with a spring in my step today! xxx

@Newestname001 - thank you for that advice, I will be consulting a solicitor, despite believing my husband will treat me fairly.....after all I never thought he'd be a lying, scumbag cheat did I? !!! x

@Sparklfairy YES!! I do feel great - I think he thought he was so clever, and BOOM, I blew all his plans out of the water I think. I have the upper hand now! x

You are awesome. Such class. THIS is how you do it.

So nice to read on here a women who is so strong and decisive. Hopefully some others can take things from you.

That said, I know how painful this is too. So a big hug and a hand hold.

@Sandra15 Thank you! Love to Mia - my cats have literally kept me sane during this whole sordid episode! xx

I found out that my husband was cheating and he was dumped inside 8 hours. Well done on not putting up with this, you rock! His guilt will only get you so far, the mood will change and history will be rewritten to give him an excuse as to why he had to cheat. Do get that lawyer, I was the only one out of the four affected parties that truly used theirs and it shows.

Well done classy lady, you rock!

@myrtlehuckingfuge - 8 hours! Wow, good for you - like you I'm not going to put up with this. Thank you, I will be getting legal advice pronto.
Have felt so liberated all day having told him to go, haven't felt this good for a long time!!

@FrumpyBetty - I do appreciate your big hug & hand hold. Not going to lie, I was terrified to confront him, but determined to not raise my voice and stay calm, and boy do I feel so good today :)

@willowmelangell - thank you so much! I'm not the sort of woman that people would say that about normally, but I'm flattered to have so much amazing support here :) xx

@FuckUcuntychops

Well done to you, it must have been so hard to keep your cool. That was very classy OP hand hold from me 🤝

Classy indeed.

So wish I'd kept my cool like that.

Gone for a week now . I sleep better , feel better and no longer lie awake at night thinking about everything.
I am taking advantage of his guilty feelings now and tying him in to a seperation agreement.

Hope you feel as liberated as I do.