How do people move on ?

[fuckedandbombed]

I was married to my best mate for 25 years but it was t a sexual relationship.

Then I met someone I was absolutely smitten with. We were together 5 years but he wasn't nice to me and it was quite abusive. I ended it but wasn't really ready .

I've now been alone 2 years. I can't imagine ever being with anyone else. I've tried online dating and it's so crass and so false . I can't seem to find a connection with anyone. I'm a young looking 49 but I'm very aware of my age . Do I give
Up and get some cats ? I can't imagine fancying anyone now . Had tons of interest online but I aren't interested . Had around 20 dates and probably 4 x that in conversation. I do t know what's wrong with me or how I can imagine feeling any connection again .

Well I do t know how much this will help but I have 3 dates lined up . All have potential. If I could
Let go of ex . I've got to try . He's gone and he's moved on . Unusually for me all three of these are fanciable ....decent jobs , age range from 40 to 56. All seem nice . Local ish . I've got to get myself out of this rut .