I'm thinking of getting some counselling as an individual but about my relationship. I'm not sure I could persuade DH to go and I want to explore some things myself. It's not that we're in a terrible place but I can see various patterns where I am too much of a people pleaser, overly organised, don't ask for support and get stressed out reoccurring. My DH on the other hand is laid back and more selfish (possibly in a good way in terms of thinking about what he needs), but also a bit lazy and it leads to me doing too much, being controlling of situations and feeling resentful.
Has anyone doing counselling helpful by themselves? Would you have any advice? How many sessions did you need? How often? Did it lead to long term change? Was it tough going?