I have been single for three and a half years and started uni this October. Made REALLY good friends with another mature student (with no kiddies) from luxemburg-really liked him from day 1 and we became great friends-just friends. We've had study groups together in the evenings from day 1 at my house as we have classes together every day-they started as big groups and have ended up him coming over with dinner every night after dd was asleep and housework done, and it started to get really electric this week (there's always been a bit of an atmosphere) and to cut a long story short we had a very lovely sexy romantic (ahem!) night on Friday-he told me how beautiful he thought I was and how wonderful term was going to be now we were together.
Then last night he did a complete u-turn and said he thought it was a terrible idea, we should stay friends as he doesn't want to mess the friendship up, which would be a fair point, but the electricity is still there and worse than ever because I am so angry at him for making me feel so used-I know he still really likes me and is coming round to go over an essay at 10-short of greeting him in underwear how do I change his mind? We're only taking the same courses this year, so if it went wrong we would only have Jan-March, and then May-June to be embarrassed, as we get huge study vacations.
I don't want a massive commitment thing, just a really nice, make me feel wanted and pretty again thing-as long as we kept it light dd wouldn't have to get involved with him as I only see him in lectures/classes when she's at nursery, and then when she's in bed xx