I had a bad dream last night that my controlling, stalking ex tracked me down and was following me... the man that I left 20 years ago. These dreams probably happen every few months or so. It was never a physically abusive relationship but emotionally it was awful and it utterly wrecked my self esteem for years. I had gone to the police at the time but this was before they recognised coercive control, and I was told "I was lucky to have someone that liked me so much". I felt so vulnerable, I basically had to run away to get away from him as he was turning up at my work and home. I have done so much work on myself, particularly over the last five years; counselling and reading so much on the subject. I'm so much more self aware and I'm in a really good relationship now after a few false starts. However I'm still paranoid about him finding me via social media (which is completely locked down and private regardless) and still worry what to do if I came across him at a social or professional event. How do you get these men out of your head for good?