Tonight it popped into my head about when I ghosted a ‘friend’ 18 months ago. I felt guilty but enough was enough.
We became friends in 2000. As time went on she would have digs at me. I cut ties with her a few years later after she bullied me. She got in touch a year later and apologised promising it would never happen again.
2014 was the last time we properly hung out. We would just do the annual happy birthday and Christmas messages. In 2018 she asked to meet up. We seemed to get on the best we ever had.
Then late 2019 we met up and she was being horrible again and called me lazy for being out of work. I was out of work due to a bad virus which affected my immune system. My health was not good and I felt angry and upset my ‘friend’ didn’t believe or support me. I blocked her on WhatsApp. She sent me a birthday card and a few weeks later a Christmas card but I never replied.
I do feel guilty for not explaining but I don’t see why I should keep telling someone to stop bullying.
She has no friends anymore and they all drifted away. I think her violent boyfriend scared everyone off as he was violent and angry in front of me the once to some of our friends who we never heard off again. I miss the old days when she was actually nice but can’t understand why she could be so cruel at times. She even slept with one her best friend’s ex boyfriend weeks after they split. Her best friend was devastated.
Did I do the right thing ghosting or should I have told her the friendship was over? I wasn’t in the right frame of mind at the time to tell her. I don’t have this problem with other friends.