Would I be better off on my own?

[claraenglish]

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Hugs.It is early days.I hated DP when both dcs were born.It was such an upheaval!!It is the biggest lifechange and you are both adjusting.Your feelings are quite normalIt should improve,eventually.I remember walking otu the door when ds was 5 weeks,Id had enough!!But then we sat down and talked.Its very hard,and very new,and you are knackered...Try to get a bit of time for YOU. hUGS,WE'VE ALL BEEN THEREXXX

get some counselling now. tomorrow morning. this has all gone horribly wrong and you are both in babyshock. get help.

Yes, couples and/or individual counselling sounds very wise.

A few thoughts:

1. The year after a new baby comes (particularly the first baby) is really hard on everyone.

1. You have managed to replicate your childhood nightmare. This is, unfortunately, What People Do. Therapy is a good way forward here.

the first few months of having a baby are a NIGHTMARE. for everyone. try to not make drastic decisions now, but wait a bit until things have settled down. it is a very hard adjustment to make.

remember how you were before.
the stresses and strains of new babies are immense.
don;t do anything drastic just now.
i hope you will be fine

I wonder if your dh is depressed - doesn't excuse him being an arse, but I do think he needs to get some help.

He is being a prize tosser. trust your feelings ...sleep deprived or not you deserve better! God I feel for you right now.. its hard as it is without your other half whining in the background about his feelings.

Do you have a good friend to offload on for some objective advice?

Yes the first few months are hard. My DS is 17 weeks. BUT.. that does not give him a reason to say such things to you.. To be honest.. when the baby haze lifts I doubt I could forgive him for the way he has been towards you and the things he says are just so hurtful.

I don't think he is depressed.. he is selfish.

Well done you for getting this far (HUG)