Has anyone paid for the Elite OLD premium membership?

[Sometimesfraught82]

I have decided to dip my toes in to online dating.

I’m not looking for anything serious as my absolute focus is my children and I have no intention of introducing anyone in to their lives for some time and certainly never ever in to their home.

But I suppose I would like to meet someone who’s like to go out for dinner, coffee and a walk, weekend away. Basically enjoy the fun side to life with.

I’m in my early forties and professional.

I’ve heard elite is good. Free membership but it would seem that to actually use properly you need to pay.

Thoughts? Any good?

Many thanks

They will ask lots and lots of questions and match you accordingly. Think First Dates where they meet and always have something in common...this is why! The Questions!!
Good luck! Most men would like this set up I believe.

I find more ‘normal’ men tend to do free sites. Whenever I paid for a site , they were either men who had no time to date, wanted Miss perfect ( massive expectations) or were just a bit bizarre. That’s just my experience though !

@WobblyMelon

I find more ‘normal’ men tend to do free sites. Whenever I paid for a site , they were either men who had no time to date, wanted Miss perfect ( massive expectations) or were just a bit bizarre. That’s just my experience though !

Interesting!

I’ve been recommended e harmony?

O. P, try posting on the Dating thread, you might get more advice on there.

Eharmony was awful! And match.
I met my dh on Pof which is also awful but Once I weeded out the weirdos there were some nice men on there.
There are some like bumble & hinge that others have found good on here.

I've found a few nice guys on hinge and bumble (I think it depends on your area as to how many guys are on there).
I think OLD is complete pot-luck.
I've met 2 really really great guys on there (neither necessarily long-term partners, but I'm quite a fussy bugger!) but I can see how it could be a frustrating process - a lot of completely unsuitable guys on there and fuck-boys (old men) so make sure you keep your standards high!

E harmony... looks like you have to pay in order to view photos?!

I agree there are less weirdos on tinder than on paid dating sites.

And no way would I pay for anything with the word 'elite' in the name. You know who think they are elite? Narcissists and psychopaths.

@Umberellatheweatha

I agree there are less weirdos on tinder than on paid dating sites.

And no way would I pay for anything with the word 'elite' in the name. You know who think they are elite? Narcissists and psychopaths.

Haha agree!

I paid for one month on Match . Started chatting to one guy the first evening. That was 9 months ago & still together! It can work!

There is an argument that normal and functional people just need some straightforward means to get in touch with other normal functional people (Tinder would do) and then ordinary human interaction takes over.

People only start looking at paid-for sites when that process doesn't work. They blame the free site, and the people on it, and imagine all the nice suitable people must be somewhere else, presumably behind a paywall. But in fact the problem is them! So paid-for sites have a much smaller pool of odd people who by self-selection are difficult to date!

@NanaNorasNaughtyKnickers

There is an argument that normal and functional people just need some straightforward means to get in touch with other normal functional people (Tinder would do) and then ordinary human interaction takes over.

People only start looking at paid-for sites when that process doesn't work. They blame the free site, and the people on it, and imagine all the nice suitable people must be somewhere else, presumably behind a paywall. But in fact the problem is them! So paid-for sites have a much smaller pool of odd people who by self-selection are difficult to date!

What complicated things though, is the algorithms. Even the free sites want you to pay. So the likelihood is, if you don’t pay for their “boosts” etc, you’ll never get seen by people who might potentially like you.

I experienced this myself: after I paid, someone who seemed perfect popped up. I matched with them and lo-and-behold they had matched with me a good couple of weeks earlier! Unfortunately, in that time, they’d met someone else and were getting serious and they left the site the next day. If the site had actually been doing what it was supposed to do - ie. match suitable people together - I would have been told they existed earlier and I might have had a chance. But, as someone pointed out to me, there’s more money to be made in stringing people along indefinitely. I’m not sure OLD sites actually want you to meet someone perfect. That way they lose your custom.

@NanaNorasNaughtyKnickers

There is an argument that normal and functional people just need some straightforward means to get in touch with other normal functional people (Tinder would do) and then ordinary human interaction takes over.

People only start looking at paid-for sites when that process doesn't work. They blame the free site, and the people on it, and imagine all the nice suitable people must be somewhere else, presumably behind a paywall. But in fact the problem is them! So paid-for sites have a much smaller pool of odd people who by self-selection are difficult to date!

The issue is that if you don’t pay... you can’t see any photos on e harmony

Use tinder or bumble, save yourself the hastle.

My dad was just saying the other day that the only reason men pay for a dating site is to find a better quality of women to have sex with. Harsh af...but I can take a fair point from it: Just because someone is paying to join a dating site, does not mean they will want anything different from you than what they would want on another dating site. They are probably just hoping you're a little more classy.

But tinder you have to pay for to look at pics!

Facebook dating you can see everyone who likes you and also do the normal swiping left and right.

I have tried several sites over the past 18 months and have found them all to be much of a muchness! Even the alleged 'free' sites might allow you to view profiles, but will then want a fee or subscription from you in order to permit you to try and connect with or message someone. They are, after all, money making businesses and not acting from altruistic motives! 'Hinge' I thought was appalling, based virtually on pictures alone and one cannot write a decent biography. But, by far the worst, in my view, is 'Zoosk' - you will receive numerous 'views', but very few of them are real; simply the site's algorithm randomly trying to match one with anyone who it thinks it can! And it soon learns one's preferences and makes selections based on that! On many occasions I have sent a message to someone who purportedly viewed my profile only to be told "nah, I ain't viewed ya, why would I wanna look at your ugly mush"!😂 Very embarrassing all round.

To be honest, I have come to the conclusion that one may possibly, as I have done, make one or two new friends, but the chances of connecting with someone who has potential to morph into a partner are slim indeed. One may as well search for a unicorn which passes golden poos! Cynical? Moi? Perish the thought!

You dont pay on Tinder to see photos.

Other sites are okcupid, bumble, hinge

@Sometimesfraught82

But tinder you have to pay for to look at pics!

No, swiping on tinder is free (seeing their pics and profiles). Its just extra features which involve jumping straight to profiles of men who have already seen and liked you that costs money.