Hey guys I have posted before and I have an update the point is that my boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up this past Thursday because some stupid video rewind back and forth nonsense and he got stingy with me I also got annoyed with him told him a bad word to his face, so it went down, he said if I was going to behave that way then we should just split that he cannot be in a relationship like this etc etc, then when I packed up all my stuff that I was waiting for my uber he begin to cry and wanted to hug me and all this crazy bs, saying that he loves and that he always loved even if I never believed he did and that he did not want this to happen, so I don’t get his weird behavior when he was the one who said if you are going to be like this then I think we should just finish and go separate ways, and then he gets all emotional 😭,
He was worried about where I was going to, I did not say, he offered me to take me,(i was coming to my grandparents) who welcomed me, so I told hom I was going to a friends house, then my grandpa told me he called crying to ask them to let me stay there ( and my grandpa told him I was actually on my way to their house, I had told him I was going to a friends house), that he was really worried about me, then he called again to see if I
was already there.
Then 2 hours later he called my cell phone 2 times I had my cell vol down, he texted me saying I love you so much by message and by whatsapp, if you need my second car I can lend it to you fir 2 months until you buy yours( he thinks that I dont have the money, which I do, I just don’t tell people what I have) I drove an old toyota which about 2 months ago died on me) so he lended me his second car (which is actually for when his mother comes visit him) if you break up with someone then that’s it no more communication, no nothing, I feel the car lending can be some type of manipulation?!,
This man is clearly unstable and always plays the victim and I was always the bad one, no wonder he cried when I was putting all my stuff in the uber ( it was dramatic) he wanted to hug me goodbye)to say goodbye to the dogs, I was crying like a baby but because I felt it, emotionally it hurt me, so I was a mess, whe were going through a rough time he was without a job, looking, he was about to get hired, but was still waiting, he was going to have to rent the whole house ( he had no money) it was just a mess, I was with him through thick and thin, even when he behaved like a d, with me ( he did many goid things for me which I appreciate and thanked him) but he had this other **y side with me.
The point is that I did not answer his messages, maybe I just should not. My dad told me that this was the best thing that happened to me cause he never saw any future in this relationship, 3 years him almost 50 and not marrying me ( I am 33).
I’ve been feeling very weird getting used to all of this, I admit it hurt me and even with all the bs my emotions are like on a rollercoaster, but trying to get better, I never cheated, never stoled money from him, helped him with his 4 animals( which was not my duty)
I didn’t realize that I forgot a big suitcase with some handbags, a coffee maker and a chair massager, to be honest the day I left I was blocked ( my head was blocked), I took all my belongings except for this which I completely forgot.
I don’t know if I should text him and tell him my grandpa to please go pick it up so I don’t have any communication with him ?! Or if I should go myself, what do you recommend for me?
Another thing I forgot to say my ex bf was jobless and was in the process to be probably get hired for a new job, he had an economic situation, I couldnt help him because I didn’t know where my money was going to, he had a great paying job almost 100,000 monthly and YET he always had “according to him financial issues” so either he was going to have to rent his whole house or sell it because if not he will lose it, so this SITUATION was also happening from 2 months ago.
I don’t really know if for real he had no money, options or everything was so drastic like he stated it to be or if he was making it up to be more than what it really was so that I supported him financially ( when I was the one that made little money).
He told me if I wanted to go to his country for a couple of months to stay at his mom while resolved things, I said NO, the only thing I told him we could do is rent a room and move on from there until he got a job but he also had 4 pets 2 small dogs and 2 cats, that he would not give up on. Even I began to love these pets ( but was to much work I admit) especially them not being mine,( his ex wife died and he had no choice but to stay with them.
So yeah there were a lot of events happening, so what do you advice for me to do in regards to my belongings that stayed at his house?
**Should I go pick them up or should I sent a closed to me person? I dont want to lose those things I left there.🤷♀️