How long to wait

[Whenisenoughenough]

Been seeing the man of my dreams for 9 months now. He works fifo so every second month we spend together. We get along great. Huge chemistry, kids all get along. Iv met his entire family (his idea) we really are great together. so here is the problem.
We are exclusive but he won't make us offical. I bring this up with him and all im met with is "forever is a long time and I want to be 100%" we are both also fairly recently divorced so not sure if that plays a part but really, 9months! If he doesn't know now, will he ever know.
He also has his single status on fb still and he knows it upsets me and yes he is very active on social media. Is he just keeping options open?
I back off and he bombs me with messages about how he loves me and can't stop thinking about me, so why wont he make it offical. Confused 😔

Don’t pay any attention to Facebook. I’ve been with my partner 4 years and still haven’t changed it. I don’t feel the need to announce stuff like that on fb, I find it cringe.

My DP and I aren’t even friends on FB! I unfriended him after we split up once many years ago and we never changed it when we got back together (think he’d have been too embarrassed for his friends to see the notification that we were now friends!) It does mean that a couple of guys have assumed I’m single and asked to meet up etc but I just set them straight, as hopefully your DP would do if anyone got the wrong idea.

What other type of “official” are you looking for, other than Facebook? Do you call each other boyfriend and girlfriend or partners? Are you looking to be engaged? (FWIW 8 years later we’re still not )

Haha ok makes me feel better about the fb thing. As in offical I want to be called his gf I guess or his partner, just him to tell me yes we are in a relationship🤷‍♀️ we were Fwb to begin then had the discussion to be exclusive but he still doesn't consider us in a relationship. Even though he says he loves me.