What is your split of domestics?

[Heartofstrings]

Just a curious one really. Husband has an exam today and asked me to quickly iron his clothes to help out. Cue rabbit in headlights look!
Who does what in your house? Pink and blue if you wish...
Food shop - either
Ironing- dh
Cooking evening meal- dh
Laundry- me
School drop off - me
School pick up- dh
Therapies for ds1- dh
Communications with School- dh (yet School ring me first every time - we have almost daily communication)
Swimming lessons - me
Changing bedsheets- me
Cleaning kitchen- dh
Tidying toys- generally me

Food Shop- Me
Cooking evening meal- Me
Nursery Drop off- DH
Nursery pick up- Me
Laundry- Me, he would put a wash on and leave it in the machine for a month if I didn't sort it
Ironing- Me
Beds- DH does ours and I do the kids
Bins- DH
Washing Cars- DH
Vacuuming and Mopping- Me
Gardening- Both
Dusting- Me
Dishwasher- Both
Bathrooms- Me
Windows- DH
Admin- Me

Me -
Cooking
Laundry
Cleaning
Food shopping
Anything to do with the kids
Changing beds
Ironing

Him -
Mows the lawn.

Oh bins and recycling - also me.

@Dinosaurmermaid

Me - Cooking Laundry Cleaning Food shopping Anything to do with the kids Changing beds Ironing

Him -
Mows the lawn.

This was my marriage. He wouldn't even wash my car, after demanding I cook him a roast dinner. I worked 4 days and he worked 6.

So now all the jobs are mine but I get a blissful day to myself each week to do most of it.

Life is so much better

DH - life admin, bins, dog walking, school run, some grocery shopping, about half of the cooking . Washes the glasses that don't go in dishwasher. Ferrying kids & my gran around!

Me - about half cooking & grocery shopping. Fill dishwasher. Laundry. Washing up. Kids' packed lunches. Daily vacuuming & tidying.

Me:

95% of deciding what we're having for dinner.

70% of cooking dinner.

80% of laundry.

70% of housework.

100% of deciding what needs doing on house and major house purchases like new washing machines or hoovers and getting tradesmen in.

80% of physical work in garden.

50% of washing up and dishwasher in/out.

Him:

90% of financial admin.

60% of food shopping.

90% of ferrying teens around.

75% of working and commuting (I wfh).

95% of holiday finding.

90% of dealing with dental appointments for 2 teens with braces etc.

90% of communicating with schools and parents evenings.

60% of bins/recycling.

Food shop - either, more DH recently
Cooking - both, more me recently
Clean up after dinner/ load dishwasher/ wipe surfaces etc - usually DH whilst I clean baby
Empty dishwasher - Me
Clean kitchen - DH
Clean bathroom - Me
Hoover - Me
Washing - me, though if he’s around when it
finishes he’ll hang it out/ bring it in
Ironing - Nobody if we can help it, me when
necessary
Changing beds - both of us
Baby bath time - him
Baby bed time - was always me, working on.
her settling with him some of
the time now
Night wakings (baby) - me
Night wakings (dog) - DH
Bins/ recycling - DH
Mow lawns - was DH, now pay gardener
DIY - neither of us we are both shit. Luckily
we have very handy family members

who we can call on (and pay back in
other ways!)
Replacing the toilet roll - me, apparently only
I can do it

Admin stuff for the house generally DH, admin/ mental load stuff to do with the baby generally me - that’s horribly gendered actually thinking about it but it’s the way it’s fallen. We probably need to look at that as I’m definitely ‘default parent’ already and she’s not even 1 yet. Plus I should probably be more involved in household stuff.

Making any kind of appointment/phoning for a takeaway or taxi or generally anything that involves the phone is me - DH is apparently allergic to the phone despite being on it all day for work.

Food shop - ME
Ironing- NO-ONE
Cooking evening meal- ME
Laundry- ME
School drop off - ME
School pick up- ME
Clubs for dd- ME
Communications with School- Me
DS1 clubs - ME X 3 DH 1
Changing bedsheets- Me
Cleaning kitchen- Me
Tidying toys- ME
Bins - ME
Gardening - DH (half arsed)
Cleaning Bathroom - Me

Basically I do bloody everything while he has his hobbies

Food shop - DH
Ironing- nobody
Cooking evening meal- me
Laundry- DH
School drop off - DH: me 4:1
School pick up- DH
Therapies for ds1- n/a
Communications with School- both
Swimming lessons - me
Changing bedsheets- DH
Cleaning kitchen- DH
Tidying toys- DH

Mine calls me on the way back from golf to ask me to put his dinner in 🙄🙄