What's the difference between death grip and erectile dysfunction?

[SummersBreeze]

Basically my relationship with my partner is sexless. I think what he has is a death grip. He can maintain an erection for masturbating beside me and that's about the extent of our sex life. Its brutal. He's not able for vaginal sex.

On another forum someone told me it's not death grip. It's erectile dysfunction he has.

This is killing me now. I'm on the verge of dumping the man and getting out of this relationship. If it's erectile dysfunction, it's somewhat worse for our relationship because he could easily go to the doctor and find out of there's something there like health problems causing it or or there would be medication like viagra.

He doesn't respect our relationship enough to go to the doctor.

I still think it's caused by death grip and too much masturbating.

Either way, he's not at all bothered that you're an unsatisfied bystander to his relationship with himself.

If he can get and maintain an erection whilst masturbating, then it's unlikely to be anything physical. So I wouldn't call it ED and I suspect there isn't much the doctor can do.

You could ask him to abstain from masturbating for a week or two, then try again. In my experience, that helps with problems created by "death grip" and porn usage. Although if he doesn't respect you enough to go to the doctor over the issue, will he be selfless enough to deprive himself..? He sounds pretty selfish to me.

Isn't death grip a possible cause for erectile dysfunction? I'd say he has both.

Just end it, OP, don't put yourself through this. Your confidence will be eroded away until you have absolutely none. He doesn't care.

Does it matter if he isnt bothered about sorting it anyway? Walk.away.

My ex was like this. Didn't want to change. I had many chats with him but he was happy the way things were. It really affect my self esteem and then I dumped him. I'm now with a man who can't get enough ;) x

@PinotPony

If he can get and maintain an erection whilst masturbating, then it's unlikely to be anything physical. So I wouldn't call it ED and I suspect there isn't much the doctor can do.

You could ask him to abstain from masturbating for a week or two, then try again. In my experience, that helps with problems created by "death grip" and porn usage. Although if he doesn't respect you enough to go to the doctor over the issue, will he be selfless enough to deprive himself..? He sounds pretty selfish to me.

Yes, I can confirm this is correct, if he had a physical problem he wouldn't be able to get an erection under any circumstances. He sounds uncaring and uninterested in your needs. I would not masturbate in front of my DW without offering her sex first.

If he has death grip it's likely because he's masturbated to too much porn. I wouldn't be able to respect a man like that, nor would I respect a man who wouldn't seek to get help or address his health issue, and nor would I settle for no vaginal sex, especially not if it might be improvable but he's burying his head. No, no, nope.