Stories of people who regret getting divorced

[spottydaisy]

Just that really. Any stories out there?

My ex husband got caught with OW (he'd only known here 3 months and by then she'd got pregnant). We were married 24 years and consequently are now divorced.

I often wonder if he feels his affair was worth it? This is not to say I want him back (ever !) but needless to say, it does cross my mind. We have grown up kids and now he has a toddler (he's 54).

Sorry you have experienced this op

From reading about this on here many men will always say how happy they were etc and outwardly put on a clear message that OW is the love of their life to in some way abscond them from their terrible behaviour

Would be interesting to see if they ever admit to it though

2 men i know who left their wifes of 25+ years for OW had cheated with women simmilar ages to the wife's they had and no more kids just enjoying their lives together pretty much as they could have done with ex-w...one of these being my FIL

Oh yes! A good friend of my husband had an affair and left his wife after 15 years when the younger version got pregnant. Divorced and married quickly again as she was putting him under much pressure. Sadly, it took another child for him to finally realised that she wasn't in love with him but his money and what came with it. She left him after just 5 years of marriage and went for all she could (and there was quite a bit left even after his first divorce).

He then met another younger pretty woman who was totally in love with him. He wasn't in love with her though, just enjoyed the sex and company. He was thinking of leaving her when she has a bad car accident that left her with serious head injuries. He couldn't leave and always hoped she'd get better but she hasn't and needs constant care. She has no family in this country and they say that can't look after her in their home. Thankfully, he is decent enough not to leave her in a care home and has assumed his role as a carer but he is deeply unhappy. To make it worse, he has just been diagnosed with rare condition affecting his sight.

He says himself that cheating on his wife was the worse mistake of his life. He did love his wife deeply but was cocky at the time and thought he could have a bit of extra fun with no consequences. He says that karma caught up with him. He is very rich but he says that money is meaningless when you've lost your freedom and esteem for yourself.

@vivainsomnia That's a really sad story. Similar story to my ex. I know for sure he didn't want more kids but he made his bed... and all that.

Not all divorce is due to cheating. Some people divorce because they have basically had enough of the other person. Plenty of them won’t regret it, as I don’t.

Yep bit of regret recently but Only because he's just inherited a million plus. Dislike the man usually

I think it's nice to imagine that our exes go through their lives racked with regret about the way they treated us but I don't think it's true in most cases. Even if someone has an OW who it doesn't work out with it doesn't necessarily follow that they wish they had stayed with their ex. Most people I know who are divorced are much happier than they were in their marriage, including those that were cheated on as they have moved on, in some cases to much better relationships.

Absolutely no regrets for me! I left as i didn't love him and have never been happier in my adult life. Left a very financially secure situation too - but money doesn't make you happy and i now have my own proper executive career, am infependent, have great mates and much better sex life. Very, very unlikely to marry again.