Why is it so hard :-(

[helpingmyself]

I'm 47 and seem to always pick wrong guys . I meet a guy online was with him 4 years then he cheated on me , it broke my heart .. since then Iv been back online dating . The latest was lovely called me all the time took me out , seemed generally interested in my life and I actually liked him ( which is difficult to find !!) he then told me he meet me at wrong time as he hasn't got enough time to put into it .. which I know is just an excuse .. another waste of 3 months . It's not even him I just feel so fed up with dating guys who let me down . I am told I'm pretty ok looking , got a bubbly personality, I treat people with respect.. I know they say it will come to you when your not looking how do you meet people other than online these days !! .. I don't work in an environment where I can meet people .. I am happy in myself got my lovely son , good friends , just would be nice to meet genuine guy who actually likes me for me for a change !

I think you need to just accept it may not happen and be ok with that. The majority of time it just comes down to luck in my opinion.

I think if it's meant to come it will (and eventually will turn crappy) Keep present most people seem to find their prince and it ends up being a frog. Like literally, not even joking. And anyone on long term relationships is making major compromises because life may look cool but then it turns around and you never know. No relationship is all rosy. Sometimes I wonder if relationships are even worth it. Find yourself. Find your happy . And then...see what or who fits into that.

I don’t see that it was ‘a waste of 3 months’. You said he was a lovely man, and you had an enjoyable 3 months. I think it’s more a case of you dealing with your expectations. Relax a bit, don’t expect it to lead somewhere, enjoy the company you chose taking it a day at a time, and who knows where it may lead.