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Pregnant girlfriend says she does not want to be with me romatically anymore.

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ArsenalPride1 · 03/06/2021 17:07

So i met this awesome woman online. We chatted and clicked and met. It was a distant relationship that recently started. I live in Manhattan, New York, she is in the airforce in a small town in Texas. We fell in love and we were almost inseperable whenever we visit eachother. Out of the blue she got pregnant, it came as a shock to me, not that i am not the father i do know for a fact we had unprotected sex many times and she told me she recently stopped using birth control pills. I was just shocked cause i am 34 years old and have dated a lot of women in my lifetime and i have never impregnated a woman before because i have use protections. Moreover, i wasn't planning on a child yet. But i accepted my fate,i really love this woman, she is just different. i told my parents and they were very happy for me, her parents felt the same way. We continued our love and We were even talking about engagement and marriage. at 8 weeks of pregnancy she told me i need to move in with her in Texas latest July, so i can adapt, i told her i understand but i just can't move in that fast, i have to make arrangements and all. I need to look for a new job, i live in Manhattan, New York with a lease that last till November, i mean i can't just move into Texas with no job and continue paying $2,000 rent for my place for the next 5 months ($10,000 in total) without a job. She lives in a small town where jobs opportunities are not that many, especially in this period the nation is just recovering from COVID. I told her i will visit like once or twice every month until the baby is born in November and then in December i will move in with her. You know, even if i don't have a job i can always manage with my savings until i find a job. I just want to be a man that brings something substantial to the table. She said she is fine with that. And she was happy with the plan.To cut this long story short, as time goes our chats became dry, she don't want to talk to me sometimes..you know, like read my messages and just reply with one word. She was never like this. Recently she told me she don't want to romantically be with me anymore. She want us to just be coparents to our child. I love this woman, i have been helping financially with the baby stuff and all. I just don't know why she would change. Like the change in attitude was swift, it's as if this is not the same woman who wanted marriage in the first place. I need your HONEST advise guys, i have never been in this situation before, my heart is beginning to be filled with regrets. One thing is certain though. I am going to be there for my child. My parents never left me, i wouldn't do the same to my child.

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FlorrieLindley · 03/06/2021 18:49

How long have you supported Arsenal?

CandyLeBonBon · 03/06/2021 19:04

@FlorrieLindley

How long have you supported Arsenal?
Haha I wanted to know that too!!!
ArsenalPride1 · 03/06/2021 19:13

My whole life :)

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ArsenalPride1 · 03/06/2021 19:18

Well i do feel like a right mug for putting myself into this mess to begin with, but yes, i will definitely get a DNA. I will continue to financially support. And moreover, she is financially stable, so don't think it's for the money here. Here whole attitude just seem of. My mother told me to be patient and to give her time, cause she might be angry cause i am not physically there for her during this pregnancy period. But bottom-line, i am definitely getting a DNA now after the kid is born. Afterwards, if kid is mine, i will move down there. If she doesn't love me no more, i will rent a place close-by and fulfill my parental duties. You guys here have really make me feel better of this whole situation. Thank you very much.

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