Why men love bitches...any other advice to re ignite the relationship?

[Blueskytry]

I read why men love bitches a while ago and it was like magic to the relationship.

Recently things have felt like he’s been distant. I know people will say don’t play games etc but why men love bitches isn’t a game, it’s a different approach. I wondered if anyone had any similar advice that helped keep a relationship strong and a good balance?!

Heres a novel idea - 'hey, you've been distant lately. Whats going on?'

Seriously though, if you don't have kids together and it just isnt working for you anymore- you know you can just leave. It's not game playing to start choosing what's good for you.

And if he sees you are serious about putting yourself first then maybe he will make an effort to value you better and make it worthwhile to stay. But that would just be a bonus.

Make it clear what you wont accept - by just not accepting it.

Yes good point. It’s not that I feel he’s pulling by away more just that I tend to give a lot to relationships and so it makes it easy for the other person to kick back and not make the same effort.

Tell him how you feel and that he has to start bucking up his ideas. Discuss what he needs to start doing. If he doesn't listen and tale the initiative to fix things (and keep it up) he isn't a suitable partner and it's time to move on.

Give him a chance. If he doesnt take it, sack him off. You aren't in a relationship to be his mother.

What is the approach suggested by the book?

I hate people calling women bitches- 9 times out of 10 all they are is politely assertive and not willing to take crap from people.

You know what you are doing wrong.

Stop doing too much.

You make little of yourself when you do it and people either disrespect you or take advantage.

Stop chasing him.
Be less available.

It's not game playing, it's knowing your worth.

If you don't value yourself, how do you expect others to do so.

Frankly I'd be wary of any advice coming from an author who thinks it's acceptable to call women that. Feels like the same sort of hogwash that touts 'manifestation' as the cure to all of life's ills

I don’t know the book. What did you take from it to reignite your relationship before?

What’s your situation, living together, committed? Relationships shouldn’t require much effort, mine doesn’t.

Can you sum the book up.. im actually quite interested

I echo the other comments. I've heard this book mentioned a number of times on Mumsnet but still not sure what the general gist of it is (I should probably just Google...).

@Drinkingallthewine

What is the approach suggested by the book?

I hate people calling women bitches- 9 times out of 10 all they are is politely assertive and not willing to take crap from people.

'Bitch' in this book means Babe In Total Control Of Herself. It's a bit of a teaser to get you interested.

It's actually a really good book and promotes basically what @billy1966 said

If the Bitches approach was so successful, why do you now need another approach?

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