Are there feelings involved or is he being nosy

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My partner has a child from an ex. Almost everytime the child comes over he's always asking him questions about his mum behind my back. Questions such as if she has a new boyfriend and asking how old is she now and will ask generic questions such as what she is doing on the weekend he has their son. Im just thinking why does he care . Am I exaggerating by thinking there's still some feelings involved or is he just being innocently nosy ?

Sounds like being nosy!

He could very well just being nosy but I had to reply as this is exactly what my Father used to do with me when I had to visit him at weekends from when they divorced (when I was three years old until I stopped going to visit in my teens).

At 35 years old now, and barely any contact with him - he still always asks such questions and has never moved on from my Mum. (The difference being with him, he has never had another relationship).

I know this isn’t particularly helpful but I think seeing as I (even as a child) knew exactly why he was asking these questions it could be a little concerning that he is potentially not over his ex. I’m sorry.

Regardless of his motivations it's pretty shitty behaviour to quiz his child about their mums behaviour. It's confusing, blurs boundaries and puts pressure on the child. Do you respect someone who behaves that way towards their child? Would put me right off.

What a fucking tosser. That poor child. What are you doing still there, you should be leaving skidmarks in leaving him!

Poor little boy being put in this position, utterly unacceptable. I don’t think this shows he still cares for his ex, he’s the sort that simply HAS to know what’s going on. Is she, or could she be happier than him etc,. Is he as nosy in your life. Please tell him to cease pumping his son for information, so not alright.

Sounds to me like he's being a nosey noo noo. He should cut it out though, probably makes his kid feel really uncomfortable!