"I do it because I know what you're going to say"

[AloneInTheRoom]

This was my DH response to me being upset because once again I was halfway though a sentence when he interrupted me. It makes me feel so boring, insignificant and stupid. There's a lot wrong with our relationship, and I know I'm not perfect, so not everything is his fault, but surely it cant all be me either? Anyway, I just wondered how other people would feel if their husband was like this with them?

There was a thread about this the other day, and somebody linked to an article about this sort of “interruption” supposedly not being about intentional rudeness but something called cooperative overlapping, and a desire to move the conversation forwards at pace.

But if there’s a lot wrong with your relationship then it’s more likely to be that a build up of resentment and irritability on both sides is manifesting itself in plain rude behaviour. Have you considered relationship counselling (or separating?)

No advice really buy my partner is the same. He's quite a loud person and dominates conversations, however he isn't the best listener and gets frustrated if I take too long to make a point (despite listening to his long stories). The other day he was chatting about something and 6 times I started a sentence, I never got to say what I wanted because he moved on from that topic.
Its much better than it used to be though. I started pulling him up on it. I basically told him he was rude, also when he said he didn't know something I made a point of saying the reason he didn't know was because he doesn't listen to me and never does. He would often interrupt what I was saying and I got to the point where once I was interrupted, I wouldnt bother carrying on the conversation and when he asked what I was going to say, I'd say I can't be bothered because you interrupt all the time! I literally stopped communicating so much and he got the hint.

I couldn't stand it. It implies you are predictable and there's no worth in engaging with you. You might as well be quiet for the rest of your life... I can predict what my partner will say often but I'm still interested. I still want him to feel heard and seen.

Would you let a stranger do this to you? or a colleague? then why let the person that is supposed to love and care about you do it?

He's be arranging his clothes in a suitcase and departing if he treated me so rudely.

@AloneInTheRoom

This was my DH response to me being upset because once again I was halfway though a sentence when he interrupted me. It makes me feel so boring, insignificant and stupid. There's a lot wrong with our relationship, and I know I'm not perfect, so not everything is his fault, but surely it cant all be me either? Anyway, I just wondered how other people would feel if their husband was like this with them?

It's definitely not you.

He is treating you with contempt by refusing to allow you to finish a sentence. Whether he thinks he knows what you are going to say or not is irrelevant. It is downright bad manners to interrupt in that way.

My DH has on occasion been like this, or alternatively he would just switch off and stop listening half way through me saying something. It happened once too often (funnily enough when I was trying to tell him something vitally urgent that he really needed to know) and when he moaned afterwards that I'd witheld this important information, I blew my top at him. He doesn't do it any more.

Don't stand for it OP. Next time, start a sentence and then say that you were going to tell him something, but since he already knows what you are going to say, you aren't going to bother.

You know you deserve better OP 🌸

It’s very dismissive behaviour
Do you want to stay with him?

My ex used to interrupt me all the time, especially when he was driving just to curse at the other drivers. Happened every single time we were on the phone.

My best friend does this to me every single conversation, even ones she initiates. I can be responding to something she brings up and she will cut me off to make a comment about something random she has is looking at.

I find it rude and very dismissive. It also has taken away any closeness i have with my best friend. and i knew I couldn't be with my ex because I couldn't stand to deal with that for a lifetime.

My EXH did this, I found it so infuriating and upsetting as its so dismissive and disrespectful. This is definitely not about you, but about his self importance, I bet he's not a good listener with anyone in his life as he probably think he knows better than everyone else. I would literally just stop talking when he did it, and when he did eventually urge me to continue I would refuse. That would annoy him but never enough for him to actually stop doing it.