OLD - no buzz on our first teams call, even after our text chat is great

[tortoiselover100]

Ok so I'm back on the dating scene for the first time in 10 years. Matched with someone online, we were texting back and forth, there was a real buzz, been texting for 3 days then we agreed to a teams chat. We both use teams for work,

I was a bit nervous because I do like him, I felt a bit self conscious, I'm about half a stone heavier than the pictures I had up (thanks to lockdown) so maybe I didn't feel as attractive as I should have. He seemed nice, nothing put me off but there wasn't that back and firth banter like we'd had on texts. He dropped the bombshell on the teams that he owns a multimillion pound company. I checked afterwards because I had his work email address for the teams and yip he does own it. That made me feel a bit inferior and insecure. He said on his post he was a business owner but a corner shop would have been less daunting for me to cope with.

Anyhow he's text afterwards, great to chat, looking forward to getting to know me better, missing me already, I look sexy on my linked in pic.

All good but I feel like the vibe isn't there now.

Is it nerves because I really like him? Is dating over teams rubbish compared to in real life.

Anyone else dating and can help me figure this out? I've been out of it for so long I can't fathom if my jitters are because I'm probably not ready to date again or because teams is shit for dating or if we probably aren't suited. Argghhh

The arsehole comment is really offputting, I've had men describe themselves to me like that OLD and they always turned out to be. It felt like they were setting me up for bad treatment by warning me beforehand.

I agree you can't go by a Teams call, and go as you are, if he doesn't like how you look, stuff him! Life is not worth trying to be what we think men want us to be, hard lesson learnt by myself.

Update if anyone wants it, so he's text a few times today, wanted to meet up, I couldn't because I had my kids. I think we're back to the positive buzz now which is great. I am definitely on high alert for arsehole behaviour and will dump at the first sign if anything. Yes I'm new to online dating, he's the third person I've responded to in the messages and the texting was so good, just very honest, I stopped texting everyone else or even looking. I know I'm probably over invested and he's messaging others. I just get such an honest vibe with him. Anyhow thank for all the advice wise vipers!

I forgot to address the multi million pound business thing, I said tell me everything about your business, it sounds like it's a real passion for you. So he told me then, it wasn't necessarily him trying to reel me in with bullshit, he has his bio on the company webpage.

@tortoiselover100

I forgot to address the multi million pound business thing, I said tell me everything about your business, it sounds like it's a real passion for you. So he told me then, it wasn't necessarily him trying to reel me in with bullshit, he has his bio on the company webpage.

You are not wary enough. He knows nothing about you, you could be a gold digger (although I hate this word I do understand why wealthy people are careful) much more likely that he thinks telling you that increases the chance of a shag