I need help breaking free

[Jtl31]

Hi all ive posted here before, Ive been in a bad relationship with dv, paranoia, emotional abuse, mental abise and now im getting strong, but.... hes very hard to get rid of, he doesn’t listen when i tell him i dont want to be with him, just replys with “do you want a cup of tea love” he does really nice things, helps me in any way he can but. Hes controlling, abusive, got mental issues, thretens je, locked me in my own home before. Hes threatened to hurt my daughters father if i leave him. Threatened any future partner i get harm.i know i need to leave him 100% but how do i stop the feeling of guilt towards him and the fear in case he harms my daughters dad?

I would warn your daughters dad and offer to be a witness/provide any evidence you have to back up any complaint he might want to make and crack on with what you know you need to do OP. You can't carry on living like this to protect other people from your soon-to-be-ex partner, his actions are not your fault or responsibility.

As for guilt is he feeling guilty for keeping you in a relationship you no longer want to be in? Again he is not your responsibility and if he wanted to keep you he should have treated you as you deserve to be treated. You know this cycle won't end unless you end it so put everything you can in place to protect you and those you care about and then pull the plaster off, it won't get better until you do

Thankyou for your comment. Hes brainwashed me for the last year. Love bombing me, all the usual stuff and its making ne be stupid thinking he does what he does due to loving me, when in reality its just hes a control freak

Contact Women's Aid for advice on how to get him out.

He really isn't your responsibility. Keep reminding yourself that be is a manlipative abuser.

Womens aid or the police ?

Is the home you live in in your name only? If so call the police, get him removed. No one on this planet is entitled to abuse you.

No its my home he doesnt live with me. Well tonight i was at home with my children (not to him) he went to the pub and rang me calling me all the names under the sun because he bumped into somebody i was in a relationship with numerous years ago, threatening all sorts, to come up to my house and everything, ive had 27 missed calls, 48 tx messages because I turned phone on silent and ignored him, its a police matter jow as im ringing them first thing in the morning enough is enough xxx

Yes ring the police and women's aid. Good Luck 💐